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Sad for my friend
This will probably be controversial but we need some movement...
My friend Kevin has been with his boyfriend, Rusty, for over 6 years. If they could have, they probably would be married at this point. Well, over the last year they have been having problems. Rusty is mostly the one who has been wanting to break up. Well, over the weekend, Rusty breaks up with Kevin. Here is the kicker, he breaks up with him by saying "I've bought a house in Kansas City and you aren't moving with me." They live in NYC. So Kevin who was basically the stay at home "wfie" and did some freelancing is left with nothing. He has no rights to anything they acquired together.
The whole thing just makes me sad. My friend is a great guy and doesn't deserve this. If he was a woman, he'd get everything from this jerk. But instead, he just has to move back to his parents house and try to put his life back together...
Re: Sad for my friend
Wow! I find this all so incredibly wrong!
I am one that is all for gay and equal rights! I know there is alot that comes with this as far as the whole government systems goes but I still stand by the fact that you can't help who you love & we should all be equal.
I feel for your friend & the fact that you're right when you say if this would have been a straight couple she probably would have been able to get something from the relationship other then just being left high & dry.
I am sorry this is happening & I hope everything works out well!
I support his decision -I've never been to Kansas the Land of Dorothy but I sure as hell tell you I probably wouldn't move there from NYC!
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What a shock - on so many levels...ending a long-term relationship and then the addition of having nothing to show for it. That is terrible news Star.
So when you say he gets nothing that they acquired when they were together, does that mean Rusty is a total a-hole and is staking rights to anything he "technically" paid for when they were together? That sucks no matter if you are straight or gay!
A recent 30 Days about gays being able to adopt had a woman speaking about the fact that her and her partner had a child (the partner was the pg one thru AI) and when they broke up the partner had no rights to her own child. I couldn't believe it. And the one that technically birthed the child was being horrible and doesn't allow the child to see his other mom. Ugh, I was furious watching it.
I am very pro-rights w/ this stuff and as the HR rep here at work try to get insurance coverages for our company that offer domestic partner coverage. So far we've got health and vision that will cover domestic partners.
I hope this turns out to be a blessing in disguise for Kevin, it won't seem like it at first, but clearly he wasn't meant to be w/ that tool bound for Kansas of all places.
Yep, he is taking the furniture and stuff since he paid for it... Rusty made a lot more money than Kevin. Just makes me angry...
That is the worst story ever. I am so sorry for your friend - that is horrible and it sucks that since they weren't married they were left with nothing. No worries though - Karma is a Witch with a B and Rusty will get what's coming!!!!
Per federal law, states are not required to give full faith and credit (i.e. recognize) gay marriages performed in other states. Florida has a specific law that says just that but also does not recognize gay marriages performed anywhere else in the world. So what happens?
Usually the partner that wants out moves to a state that does not recognize gay marriages leaving the other spouse high and dry because most couples do not reside in the state where they were married. This is especially horrible when children are involved because they are taken away from one of their parents and the parent has pretty much no judicial recourse. At least one person has to reside in a state that recognizes gay marriage in order to obtain a divorce there and get a property and custody settlement.
Honestly, it's stupid that states that don't recognize gay marriage won't at least grant divorces or annul the marriages so that property and custody can be determined just like it is in heterosexual divorces/annulments. It would be so much easier on the court system and all of the parties involved.
While I know this sucks for your friend....this happens every day. ?Couples that live together without being married leave their significant others all the time. ?They don't have much recourse either. ?Palimony is one of the hardest things to prove so there is always someone that is left high and dry. Heck, with the cost of divorce now a days, this probably happens a lot with married couples as well. ?If one or both parties can't afford to "fight" for what they want/need then they get nothing as well. ?I know it's easier when you are married but it is still a VERY expensive process.
Again, it sucks but from the way you explained it it sounds like both parties saw it coming. ?I know it's still hard to lose the one you love but he maybe should have taken some steps earlier to make sure he'd be ok when it finally happened.?