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Thanksgiving sucks.
I usually LOVE holidays, but for some reason I hate Thanksgiving! Am I the only one? I want to just skip through to Christmas!
I convinced DH to just have dinner in front of a movie on TV for Thanksgiving, but plans changed.
Both of our parents are divorced, so we have a LOT of places to go on holidays. And having to do so on a holiday I hate just sucks. I like food, but going house to house eating the same stuff over and over and listening to each person that cooked say that theirs is the best... and having to lie and agree... is not fun. Nor is the miserable feeling of eating twice your body weight in Turkey.
If DH's uncle wasn't coming in town from Iraq, I would refuse. lol
PS- Bless our military men and women! Esp those at Ft. Hood right now. 
Re: Thanksgiving sucks.
I know what you mean. I don't know anyone who is genuinely excited about Thanksgiving.
We usually go to my Granmas but she's been down because Nov 18 will be the 6 year passing of my grandfather and she is depressed around October thru the holidays since he passed.
My husband's family lives on the other side of the state. 5 hour drive in good weather. DH works until midnight on the Wend before. Leave at 8 am to get there around 2ish, spend the night and leave again Friday morning because he works on Saturday. Its too much. I told him I may stay home but that seems disrespectful which I don't want to be. I also have to take time off the day after Thanksgiving and I don't have much left (was hoping to save it for Christmas Eve)
So in the short of it, I sympathize.
Sounds like you need to change your holiday schedule to make Thanksgiving more enjoyable.
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Both of our parents are divorced, so we have a LOT of places to go on holidays.
Really? YOu think you have to do this? You don't. Start picking ONE place to go and start a rotation. People don't like it? Oh well.
When a holiday becomes something yo udon't enjoy, then you need to change how you celebrate it. YOu're an adult, you have a say in this. So- figure out what works for you and your DH and go from there.
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Wow, it's my very favorite holiday. I love the food and being together with family (similar to Christmas but without the stress of presents). It is just a day to be together and enjoy each other. I have divorced parents as well as in-laws, so we go at least three places on Thanksgiving. I wouldn't change a thing.
Yep. I feel like Thanksgiving is almost better, because more thought goes into the proper preparation of the FOOD! Yummm
I also enjoy getting most of my christmas shopping knocked outta the park in one day! I will then spend the next two to three weeks completely decorating and enjoying the baking and christmas-y activities!!
This post officially got my holiday engines roaring...
Best sound ever: baby's heartbeat! (Heard @ 10w1d)
I agree with pp...
If you are not enjoying the Thanksgiving Holiday, you definately need to do something different. You could only go to ONE place. Remember it's not about the food or traveling 5 hours to go somewhere, it's about being with your family and being thankful for what you have!!! Maybe you and your H could start a new tradition......
Oh goodness, I can only imagine! I'm only lactose intollerant, and that's hard enough. My cousin brought a toferkey one year! That was kinda cool IMO, but the rest of the family gave some really funny looks.
As far as only going to one house- I wish. My mom is the only one that is reasonable(also the one person's house we would go to if we could) since she grew up in a similar situation but her commute was Ohio to Michigan, ick.
The others demand we see them every holiday (all day if they had it their way).
REALLY? They WILL get over it, if you stand up and say this isn't working. You are allowing them to run your life and it is making you miserable - choose differently! You are an adult, you get to make choices in your life. The only person you need to consult/agree with is your DH so that you are a united team.
My grandma would prefer if we went to her house for every holiday. But, we don't, we had to set limits on our time, our sanity, our waistlines... She will occasionally make a snippy comment, but after a few years she has mellowed and just accepts it. And I have stuck firm on what I am willing to do - AND - I am much happier for doing so.
Exactly, you both are making yourselves miserable just to appease everyone else. I love Thanksgiving but I too would hate it if I had to do what you do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing what you want for Thanksgiving. Everyone else will just have to gt used to it. Really they will. They don't have guns to your head and the world won't explode if they are upset. Really it won't.
Also are you planning on having children? Are you guys going to drag them all over ( therefore making them miserable) just to appease your family members. I had a coworker who dragged her kids to 4 places on Christmas day and she would come back to work and talk about how miserable and cranky her kids were the whole time. However she was a huge people pleaser and would rather ruin Christmas day for her kids then, gasp, have someone mad at her. I felt so sorry for those kids every year.
There has to be a time when you say enough is enough. I am doing what is best for me.
I know exactly how you feel. We have 4 family dinners to go to every year with an hour drive in between. We started only going to two or three, and attempted to do a rotation, but kept getting pressured to go to the same 2. For example, we have to go to DH's parents the last 2 years because his OOT brother isn't coming and would really hurt his parents to have two kids not come. I haven't been to my mom's thanksgiving since 2006.
DH never had to share holidays until he married me, so he refuses to not go to EVERY one of his family functions (including 3 different Christmas gatherings on just the 24th and 25th). I want to set up a rotation, but every year, we just give in and try to go to everything. I am really starting to hate the holidays. I know that we could put our foot down, but it just seems easier to suck it up and go.