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MIL Vent

OK I have yet to post a Vent on here since Ive joined, and I think now is the appropriate time.. Im hoping some of you can relate and offer some advice.

I really like my In Laws, because I do not associate with my parents, and havent for many years. So my aunt and uncle are like my parents.. so my in laws have done a lot for me over the past 8 years DH and I have been together before getting married in June.  Ever since we have been on our own, I feel like MIL calls EVERY DAY and sometimes more than once a day.. and sometimes at the most in opportune time.  Like we'll be eating, or talking about something or working on something together and she calls, and she talks and talks to DH.. and it gets annoying. Sometimes about nothing important at all.  Yesterday FIL calls at 8 am in the morning and wakes us up out of bed to tell us about choir rehearsal at church being earlier that morning.. DH told him we wouldnt be going since we got home late the night before.... but to call and wake us up at 8 am the morning of, was not the cool thing to do. I guess DH told him he woke us up but it didnt seem to bother him.

Sometimes I feel like I get very angry with DH that his mother calls all the time. We were helping friends of ours move this Saturday, she called.  He was working on a motor job for a friend at our house and she called.. and the thing is he answers, and cant tell her that he's in the middle of something and will have to talk another time (like he would do to me if Id call and he was in the middle of something like that on his own), but he'll talk to her.  I get so mad about it to DH but I guess he thinks Im over reacting. I feel like we need our personal space and that she needs to just back off a bit with the phone calls.  Who knows how often she calls him at work during the day???

I dont want to be mean about it, because I guess I can tell she misses him.. but to call all the time like that can be very annoying and I wish she'd just back off a bit, but I dont want to say anything because I like them after all they've done for me/us.  I just wish DH would understand where I come from.

Vent Over.

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Re: MIL Vent

  • Vent away! My IL's are the same way. They are ALWAYS up in our business! My MIL constantly is giving her opinion on how we should do things, so I feel your pain. And don't even get me started on the phone calls! All we can do as wives is let our DH's handle things and try to not get involved. I have learned to just let him deal with them and not be critical of how he does that...he knows the better than I do! Good luck and hang in there!
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  • I've been very lucky to have a wonderful MIL, but I can tell she is going to turn into a problem when we have kids (based on how she handles DH's older brother and his kids).  So, I am sending happy thoughts your way! :)
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  • I probably made it sound worse than it really is.. but I just get frusterated with the phone calls all the time thats all. Otherwise, I really dont have any complaints about her. I guess I just have to get used to the fact that now that him and his sister (she's away at college) are out of the house, its harder for her... but to call everyday isnt really necessary imo.  Otherwise, his parents are great.  Thanks for listening!
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