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Newlywed with Babies on the Brain

I can't help it... every time I miss my period (even by a day) I'm hoping I'm pregnant.  We're not even actively trying!!  It's so silly, but it's literally all I can think about these days.  Anyone else in the same boat? 

Re: Newlywed with Babies on the Brain

  • I totally am and didn't even expect it!  I was married at the end of September and just recently it's almost all I think about (not really...but I am really baby excited).  We're not going to start trying for another 6 months, but I cannot wait for that day to come! 
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  • YES!  We have been married for over a year so I guess we're not technically newlyweds, but we just started "trying".  (As in we will just see what happens not get too crazy about it.)  I am counting the days til I can find out.  I know I should not think about it so much, but its hard.  Good luck!
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  • It's funny.. I'm not ready yet, but my husband is! All he talks about is how excited he is to have a baby and how he can't wait to be a dad! It scares the crap out of me!
  • Yup!  Us too!  We just got married in the beginning of October (but we've been together for 9 years and lived together for over 2 years).  My husband wants to start trying now!  He wanted a honeymoon baby.  :)  but we are standing up in a wedding in May and I really don't want to be 8 months prego.  So we'll probably start trying in January.  But I can't wait!  It's all I think about too!  And moving from our townhouse to a house also.  Can't wait for this next chapter in our lives to start!!!
  • Just last night DH said "I can't wait to make more money so we can have a baby". Seriously I was staring at him and tears rolled down my eyes. It has been on my brain for awhile but timing isn't right, not sure when it will be either since I am caught in a catch 22.

     I actually have a question regarding this situation:

    I am currently looking for a job, DH's company is not pulling in a lot of money right now. Say I get a job within the next two months, should I wait a year after that to start trying? Not sure when a good time is to have a baby and don't want to wait too long.

  • From what I've read/heard you want to be at your job for at least one year before you take maternity leave.  That way, if your company offers it, you can take short term disability and still get paid a little while you're off.  And, you have to be employed for at least 12 months by the same company to qualify for FMLA.
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  • Yay!!!  I'm not alone.  That makes me feel better.  A lot of my just married friends are like why do you want to jump the gun on kids.  I've been with my DH for 10 years this February so it just feels natural to want to start a family (even though we've only been married for 6 months). 
  • imageMISnJER80:
    From what I've read/heard you want to be at your job for at least one year before you take maternity leave.  That way, if your company offers it, you can take short term disability and still get paid a little while you're off.  And, you have to be employed for at least 12 months by the same company to qualify for FMLA.

     

    Thanks, that's what I thought. 

  • My husband is totally ready, I am not quite there yet.  I want to wait until we've been married at least a year, or close to it.  I am also trying to pay down some cc debt before we add a baby to the mix.  BUT everytime that I am near my 3 mo. old nephew I get the mommy itch!!  I guess I'll just have to get my baby fix from him. 
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  • Wow not me at all. We haven't event talked about it besides me saying "no way not for at least 5 years" We have been together for 5 years married since September. I just want time with him to myself right now, i don't even want to throw the stress of a baby in the mix.
  • I think I need to mention, with that being said....I do feel like I am missing the mommy gene! lol We have a dog that I mother to death, but...I'm not looking forward to babies! weird right?
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    I think I need to mention, with that being said....I do feel like I am missing the mommy gene! lol We have a dog that I mother to death, but...I'm not looking forward to babies! weird right?

    Not weird at all!!  I wasn't sure I wanted kids at all and then one day BAM!!  it hit me square in the face and now I can't stop thinking about it.  No biological clock ticking (as I'm only 26), but the mom gene definitely surfaced.  I was quite surprised (as was my DH).

     

  • we've been married for a little over a year, and i swore i would never have kids, never wanted them...and now i think about it constantly and would actually be happy if it did happen! we'll see if i change my mind back...
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