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Need help with a shower: New Family or Baby & Wedding?!
I would appreciate some great ideas and thoughts on this. My sister-in-law and I are trying to weigh the pros and cons of each and decide what to do.
Here's the background:
My brother and his wife just got married at the courthouse on Thursday. They got engaged in July and found out soon after they were expecting-baby is due the beginning of March. They are still in college and moved in to an apt from the dorms last week. My brother is in the National Guard and is deploying this summer.
My sister-in-law and I would like to have a shower for them. We have a lot of thoughts and questions running through our heads. Because they chose not to do things in the "tradition" church wedding manner (they will have a celebration this summer before he leaves), she didn't have any bridal showers. Now they are married and pretty much have nothing because they moved straight out of the dorms. We would like to have a bridal shower for her so they can get some of the new items and enjoy them together before he leaves this summer. But, we also want to have a baby shower for them because they are going to need those things as well.
We talked about having one shower for them and theming it around a "New Family". Then people invited would have the option of bringing a baby gift or a wedding gift (if any gift, obviously). The guests wouldn't have to worry about attending two showers-it would be one event celebrating two happy beginnings. Or, do we do one at a time-baby shower first since it is expected in March, and then, a wedding shower closer to June? That would allow individualized attention to each special event.
If you think a "New Family" type shower would be the best, I welcome all ideas, suggestions, themes, etc. I do, the same, for the two separate showers-I've just never hosted a "New Family" and I'd like to make it as successful as possible if that's what we decide to do.
Thank you for your thoughts...we really just want to make it all special for them!
Re: Need help with a shower: New Family or Baby & Wedding?!
Honestly? I think you can do a couples "reception" for them.....A party to invite people to celebrate their wedding... People I am sure would bring either gifts of money. Maybe tie it in with New Years? But I would also do a baby shower for them. It sounds like they could use the house stuff from a couples shower...and the baby stuff from a baby shower.
I'm usually pretty open minded about things like this, but I have to agree with Mandy. Since they will be having a party to celebrate later in the year, I think at that point house type gifts and/or money might be what people bring.
I would just do the baby shower.
Ditto.
Agreed. From a certain standpoint, it seems harsh to say "you didn't do things the traditional way so no shower for you!" but having a shower before the wedding is the whole point. You don't throw someone a birthday party 2 months after their birthday either.
They knew when they got married that their way would mean foregoing the usual pre-wedding fanfare, including showers. They are no longer a bride- and groom-to-be, they are a married couple with a baby on the way. They'll get wedding-y gifts when they have their reception so focus on the baby. Throw her a baby shower.
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