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Since we are venting about family members....
You guys know that I wouldn't let you down with a MIL story right.....
So we opt out of the "camp" thanksgiving since it was so far out and Drew worked late. Instead, we were invited to their house on Saturday to do a small thanksgiving with the other side of the family and watch the game. We get there right at kick-off and of course the awkwardness begins immediatley upon walking in the door.
The obligatory hugs all around blah blah blah. MIL proceeds to try to shove horseyderves (what I called them as a kid) down my throat. They all have pecans in or on them. I tell her for the MILLIONTH time, that I am allergic. She says "oh my gosh, i had no idea." Now I kid you not, I have told this woman I am allergic to pecans for EVERY FAMILY FUNCTION because every time, she makes something with them in it and has the same ignorant response. It drives me crazy. I know it sounds like something silly to get upset about but when you dont care enough to even remember it makes me realize just how little you really give a flip about me....
moving along....
She brings up the baby shower that was this Sunday. I tell her that I still never received an invtiation and that I would not be going. She got all in a tizzy and said how offended she was that I didnt receive an invitation. I told her that it didnt offend me and it shouldnt offend her. She said, "well, it does. It's just rude." I told her that maybe they were being senstive to it and didn't send one on purpose to which she replies "well thats just dumb"
You're right lady, it is dumb that people might consider my feelings and not send me an invitation to spare them but it is perfectly smart for you to keep pushing the issue here all the while knowing that it upsets me. At this point I feel the lump start to develop in my throat as she goes on and on about Cousin's baby.
I asked her if they picked out names, she replied, I said cute trying to keep things short. She says she will give them the gift from all of us and I told her no thank you that I would send a gift on my own terms on my own time. She says oh wait, I'll show you what I got her. THEN proceeds to go get all the shower gifts she purchased, brings them out and shoves them in my face. I felt my lip start to quiver.
I then hear her go over to GMIL and tell her "Karrey 'says' she didn't get an invite to the baby shower, ::insert eye roll::ha. I am going to call and complain."
Lady please just let it goooooooo....She then turns back to me and goes on and on and on about it. I finally just got up and walked outside to get some fresh cool air as the tears fell down my face. After I came back inside, I heard her bitching about me being rude and walking away from her. OMG I could strangle this woman.
She asked me about my brother and whether he came home for the holiday or not?????!!!! Coy moved back in January. Again, if she gave a damn, she would remember these things. It's not like the family is huge and there is too many people to keep up with. There are 4 kids in the family. Two are married. That's it. You would think if you gave a rat's a$$ about your DIL you would remember she was allergic to pecans and know that her ONLY family moved back home almost an ENTIRE year ago. Hell, he lived with me for two months when he moved back home woman. We freakin talked about it.
I would love to just ignore her but that is when she seems to pull the best gems out of her a$$. Like baby nonsense.
Sorry this was so long....no need to respond. We all know shes an idiot by now.
Re: Since we are venting about family members....
This
When I got upset about the pecan thing, he just kinda laughed at it. I got upset that he thought it was so silly. It's silly if it was maybe the second or third time but we are talking about THREE years of PECANS here. Three freakin years that she has "no idea."
I'm just at a loss now.
The thing with the pecans is frustrating but not half as bad as rubbing the baby shower in your face and making you cry. Did you talk to D about that? Did he see it happen?
I definitely agree (and totally understand your frustration that you expressed in your OP and in your response to Lore). I'm so sorry you have to put up with this crap all the time, you don't deserve that.
I'll help you, Code. I don't have military training, but I'm scrappy.
Karrey, do you thinks she's trying to prove you're not allegeric to pecans? (I know some people think food allergies are "made up") Or poison you?!
Just reading about her is stressing me out. I can't imagine what it would be like if I was forced to spend time with her.
Ohh scrappy is good. We can teach her what a hockey fight is....