The nerve... (Vent)

Karen2905

Okay, so get this.

I was talking to my mom who was relaying my sister's Thanksgiving experience with her in-laws.  My sister has a nut/seed allergy that she has been conveying to them for the past several years.   They just don't seem to get it.

They deep fried the turkey. 

IN PEANUT OIL. 

And DIDN'T TELL HER. 

My sister took a bite of the turkey, and her mouth/throat starting burning, but she initially said she couldn't figure out what she was reacting to.  (Who would equate turkey with nuts?) Finally she asked, and they told her.  They apparently all thought someone would get around to telling her, but nobody did. (Nor, apparently, did anyone notice her putting turkey on her plate.) My sister is fine - her allergies aren't severe enough for her to swell up after a bite like others with this allergy.  But if she had eaten more than she did, she would have been in trouble.

This is not the first time this has happened with her in-laws, and I just don't get it.  If I were serving food to a person with a nut allergy, I would make pretty damn sure that nothing on the table had nuts.  I understand that it was my sister's responsibility to ask.  But I think if you're in familiar enough settings (like immediate family), she shouldn't have to bring it up every time she has a meal with them. My in-laws probably have some mild beef with my sister for events in the past, but nothing that justifies anything even remotely intentional.

*sigh*  Sorry.  I"m in feisty little sister mode.  I'm just disgusted about the whole thing. 

 

munkii

I don't get why people do things like that!  I'm vegetarian (chicken in my pp is really an alternative); yet people always think it's ok to share utensils that have touched meat/broth/schmaltz/etc.  When they try to share pizza, they say, "just pick off the meat!"  Yeah, Karen's sister, "just scrape off the peanut oil!"  People get on my nerves.  They're lucky she didn't have a terrible attack.

kelnyc

Eew, that is so not acceptible. My hubby is a vegetarian, an at our dinner, with people we had never shared a holiday with before, the hosts made sure to even use vegetable stock for the stuffing. And his is a choice, not something potentially life-threatening! I don't blame you for being miffed. What's their major malfunction?!

Fotophreak4c

ugh thats very frustrating! I also have a mild allergy to peanuts that just developed over the past year or so and when I eat or touch anything with peanuts in it I get a rash or redness in my throat or on my hands. Its really hard too because a lot of things have peanut oil or nuts in it and u have no idea! 

arobertson62282

That's ridiculous - a friend of mine has the same allergy and for our friend's thanksgiving, we all brought something to the table. Knowing that she was allergic to nuts and that we would have a deep friend turkey, DH and I also brought a ham that she would be able to eat.

For family especially, I don't know why you wouldn't go out of your way to make them more comfortable. Ugh.

Karen2905

Thanks for your thoughts, ladies.  I'm just really disgusted by the whole thing.  I simply don't get it.