Anything random you care to share

2brides

It is really quiet here and our computer systems are down.  We can still see patients (using paper charting) - but everything I need to do it through our computer system. I have been working on our photobook for Christmas - but I am tired of doing it.

 What is on your mind?

Tanya+Da

I know I've said this 87 million times, but my beta that is tomorrow is taking over my brain!!! I am over-analyzing each and every twinge, cramp, feeling, even though I know it means nothing!

So, something non-beta related that is on my mind: I don't feel like my boss likes me and I don't have enough to do, so I think I may get fired for not being valuable enough. Booo....I have no justification for this, just my worries.

It's almost FRIDAY!

nevr2amazin

So much is on my mind that I would not even know where to begin. I am so mad at myself because I missed a call from my daughter who is at training for her upcoming deployment. I feel that every minute I can talk to her and see her is so precious. I am happy that she will be here for Christmas and am quite tempted to buy her the X-Box she wants, but the budget says something else will have to do. I so wanted her to be here for the birth of her siblings. Though there is definitely an age gap, I know she is looking forward to having a little brother and a little sister. So, I guess you can say ALL my kids are on my mind. (Plus I am sad that C and I had to rush lunch because of meetings...ARGH!)

2brides

Why does Neflix have movies released in 2008 in their "New Releases" section? So annoying.

I love how excited they are for Christmas. They are going to be so sad when it is over.

The chocolate advent calender is a HUGE hit. So much so, that Carter woke at 3am saying, "I want my Christmas chocolate, please." LOL.

I have brought my lunch 4 days in a row now. Go me.

My hat goes off to all single parents. L has had early morning meetings all week and has been reading/writing for school every night this week. So, I've been in charge all week. I am exhausted.

I didn't realize how much easier it was to have a nanny. I never had to think about breakfast or lunch. Now I am fixing 3 meals a day. Blech. I am tired thinking about food.

Grayson "borrowed" my pink fuzzy hat this weekend. In my need to get it back, I went to Old Navy last night and bought Gray a red hat/scarf set and Carter a blue one (favorite colors.) Gray declared he DID NOT like the red one and would continue to "borrow" my pink hat and he'd like a pink scarf to match.

Darn kid. I miss my fuzzy pink Lands End hat -guess I'll need to buy another. And I guess I'll swing by Old Navy tonight and exchange his red set for a pink scarf. I know his teachers are shaking their heads and thinking that this is all b/c he has 2 moms.

 

Good luck Tanya!!!

Two*True

Okay this is flammable but it's what on my mind.  I don't think I'm going to have a baby shower and it makes me sad.  It's not about the gifts because I know our families will still send us stuff, it's about the fun and joy of it.  I grew up going to all my cousins' baby showers. It's an exciting thing and so cool to see family celebrate a new life.  But being 3,000 miles away means we won't have this.  It just kinda bums me out once in awhile.

2brides

Two - that totally not flameable.  I felt the same way about a wedding shower. I've been to 1001 and hosted my fair share, but never had one. I felt that either 1) my marriage wasn't seen as equal to my hetero friends and therefore didn't have one and 2) I missed out on some right of passage/tradition. 

What about friends/co-workers?   Any chance they might do it?

 

S- I am sorry you didn't get a chance to talk with your daughter. I can't imagine how stressful this all must be for you.

ctbride08

Two*True:

Okay this is flammable but it's what on my mind.  I don't think I'm going to have a baby shower and it makes me sad.  It's not about the gifts because I know our families will still send us stuff, it's about the fun and joy of it.  I grew up going to all my cousins' baby showers. It's an exciting thing and so cool to see family celebrate a new life.  But being 3,000 miles away means we won't have this.  It just kinda bums me out once in awhile.

i dont think thats flame-worthy. i have the same thought often :-/

ctbride08

- My car is currently in the shop for a $590 repair. ugh.

- selecting yet another donor sucks.

- i havent had lunch or showered yet today

- its 65 degrees here today. i love it!

- we were finally going to order our wedding album but thanks to the first item above, that will be put off. again.

- various things we've experience this year have seemed to put a distance between us and some of our friends. that makes me sad.

- somehow i managed to lose .2lbs this week. not much, but the fact that i didnt gain from thanksgiving is awesome!

 

Two*True

2brides:

Two - that totally not flameable.  I felt the same way about a wedding shower. I've been to 1001 and hosted my fair share, but never had one. I felt that either 1) my marriage wasn't seen as equal to my hetero friends and therefore didn't have one and 2) I missed out on some right of passage/tradition. 

What about friends/co-workers?   Any chance they might do it?

We didn't have a wedding shower either and felt the very same way as you. I think my co-workers will do a gift because we all just did it for someone else in the office, but I don't see them as the party planners.

Duchess1

TWO- Not at all flameworthy! I felt the same way about a bridal shower. In the end it worked out but I was really sad about the possibility of missing out on that tradition.

I don't think we will ever have a baby shower. There may never be a baby for one and no one throws foster/adoption showers. In fact, one of my friends actually said she would never dream of buying a gift for the girls because she didn't know if they were staying or not. OUCH!

I hope you get your shower.

2brides

Too bad we all don't live closer - we could throw a huge "Wedding Shower (that we never had) and Baby Shower (that everyone deserves!)"

 

ETA: I changed the title of our party. 

Two*True

Duchess1:

In fact, one of my friends actually said she would never dream of buying a gift for the girls because she didn't know if they were staying or not. OUCH!

So not cool.  I'd have a hard time staying that person's friend.

Mrs._F

Two - Not flame-worthy at all!  Like you said, it's not about the gifts, it's about celebrating with family.  Will be you be going back home at all before the baby arrives?  Or maybe something small with your more local peeps?

Duchess - I cannot believe a friend said that to you!!!  How completely insensitive, not to mention utter nonsense!

ssg73

It is so nice out today.  LIke 65!  We took a nice walk with E today and it was very nice.  We took our combi stroller and it was great.  She is still a little small for it but it was fine and we also need to play with the straps a little.  Those of you shopping for a light weight stroller I totally would reccomend it.  We got the combi cosmo ex in cranberry http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3375006

E got her second RSV shot today which always makes me feel better about germs and her being a bit more protected from getting sick.  She also got weighed and is now 12 lb 2 oz

I have a paper to write for my class and I just want to get it done and don't really care about my grade (how bad it this) .  It is the last week of my class and I will be glad it is over.  I can't say I learned all that much but it is cheap grad credits and the sooner I get my plus 30 the better!

Also the sooner I can finish my work the sooner I can get going on my x mas card!

Mrs._F

Well the best friend's wedding in Jamaica situation may be okay in the end.  C and I wrote an email together to explain our concerns to our friend and let her know that although we can't imagine missing her wedding (again, this is C's best friend of more than 10 years), if it's in Jamaica, we'll have to.

Once she read our email, she understood where we were coming from.  We included links to info we'd found online about just how dangerous Jamaica is for gays -- she hadn't realized how bad it truly was.  Jamaica is still on the table - she and her FI are doing some site visits there - but they are going to reconsider some other places as well.  They're looking at the Bahamas (which I still wouldn't be thrilled about, but at least I wouldn't be fearing for our lives), and I sent her some links from St Croix (USVI) to check out too.

So hope, hope, hopefully it won't be Jamaica, but at least if it is, she knows we won't be able to come and understands.

*sigh* This whole situation has been really stressful.  I hate that we have to worry about this crap, and it stinks feeling like you're putting extra stress on such a good friend.

Two*True

Mrs._F:

 Will be you be going back home at all before the baby arrives?  Or maybe something small with your more local peeps?

My bff back home wants me to fly in but that just doesn't sound fun to me. Traveling in the winter with the possibility of snow storms, and now getting bigger and more uncomfortable.  I'm just not feeling it, kwim?

My mom wanted to have one via Skype or something but that seemed odd to me.  

I think maybe if everything is going smooth after the baby is born I'll try to go home while on maternity leave and have some sort of Sip & See.

ssg73

two

 totally get what you are talking about.  Everyone always gets a baby shower at my work.  Even the boys!  I have helped plan and shop for every shower that has taken place at work since I have been there and lets just say there is at least 2 a year.  Well for some reason perhaps becasue when I was due it didn't happen before school ended in June.  I was pretty sad.  One of my friends at work said that they were planning on having it in the fall after I had the baby.  This kind of sucked.  Last year we did have a joint shower for four people  2 of which had their babies early (in aug but were due in late sept.) so theirs happend after the babies so I know there was some precidence for this but those women were supposed to come back to work in the fall and I was not.  Anyway a fall after the baby shower didn't happen either.  I am bummed kind of just because I feel let down by my friends.  Not because I want or need loot.  I totally get it.

Oh and I think everyone should get a baby shower and duchess I would have punched said friend (ok not really but I would have wanted to and then thought of really witty things I should have said to her after the fact!)

LadyLynz83

Two*True:

 I'll try to go home while on maternity leave and have some sort of Sip & See.

 

My friends did this, they called it a "Baby Warming" Party (a la House Warming) and had everyone come over and they still did a lot of the traditional baby shower stuff- it worked out really great, and they got to show off their new little person

Tanya+Da

2brides:

Good luck Tanya!!!

Thanks so much!!!

Tanya+Da

Duchess1:

. In fact, one of my friends actually said she would never dream of buying a gift for the girls because she didn't know if they were staying or not. OUCH!

A. This is rude.

B. Buying them gifts is about making them happy. They are children for jebub's sake!!! There is no reason to not do things to make them happy. Even for a moment!

Duchess1

I like the Baby Warming or Welcoming idea!

Mrs._F- I hope the wedding ends up in a safe place and you don't have to stress anymore.

Thanks for the virtual outrage, I really need new friends. Maybe Santa will bring me some!

On my mind right now is todays visit. I know he has every right to see his daughter and I think it's great that he shows up every week. Not a lot of men do that.  I just hate that he breezes in spends two hours with her, feeds her donuts and is suddenly a "fit" parent in the eyes of the system. I would love to see him parent her, discipline, provide her with essentials, bring her diapers or wipes, ask about her therapy, her doctors appointments, ask if she needs anything. ( She doesn't BTW, I just think he should show an interest) It can't be all donuts all the time.

S and I feel certain that she is going back to him and I cannot tell you how painful and terrifying that is.

 

Tanya+Da

Duchess1:

S and I feel certain that she is going back to him and I cannot tell you how painful and terrifying that is.

 

That is heartbreaking! I am so sorry you have to go through this! But you are changing a child's life in such a positive way! And hopefully you can always be in her life if she does go back. Again, I am so sorry...

LadyLynz83

So, my company is possibly going through reorg of my department, and there is a 50-50 chance they are going to dissolve the dept in 12 months. Well, with C and my baby plans in, oh I don't know, about 12 months, that doesn't work for us.  So... I started applying elsewhere quietly, and I got an interview for a great (and huge) company! I interviewed this past Tuesday and should know by the end of the year.  I can't say anything to anyone other than C because most of my friends are not in Chicago and have succumbed to the lure of facebook being the primary form of communication, and I don't want them to say anything on my wall about it since I am friends with current work people on there.... but I'm very excited, and hopeful that it works out. If the salary offer is comparable to what I am making now, I will definitely take it.

 Just wanted to be able to share with SOMEONE(s), lol.

Mrs._F

LadyLynz83:

So, my company is possibly going through reorg of my department, and there is a 50-50 chance they are going to dissolve the dept in 12 months. Well, with C and my baby plans in, oh I don't know, about 12 months, that doesn't work for us.  So... I started applying elsewhere quietly, and I got an interview for a great (and huge) company! I interviewed this past Tuesday and should know by the end of the year.  I can't say anything to anyone other than C because most of my friends are not in Chicago and have succumbed to the lure of facebook being the primary form of communication, and I don't want them to say anything on my wall about it since I am friends with current work people on there.... but I'm very excited, and hopeful that it works out. If the salary offer is comparable to what I am making now, I will definitely take it.

 Just wanted to be able to share with SOMEONE(s), lol.

Best of luck!!

mandykatie

Two*True:

Duchess1:

In fact, one of my friends actually said she would never dream of buying a gift for the girls because she didn't know if they were staying or not. OUCH!

So not cool.  I'd have a hard time staying that person's friend.

Agreed.  She obviously doesn't get you.  I've always thought that families who foster/adopt deserve showers more than those who procreate... I mean, come on!  This is the 45 billionth time I've wished this country were smaller.  We *so* would've thrown you a fostering shower.  You, too, CT!  Honestly, you have to buy so much more than when you're expecting a bio baby- you have to be prepared for any age and the possibility of sibling sets!  Not to mention the good you're doing for our society that should be encouraged and supported.  UGH! Somebody contact Ellen and have her fly us all to Cali for the group shower.  She can purchase the gifts, as well.  :-)

2brides

I think when someone gets a PhD, everyone in the family should walk across the stage and get a degree. It certainly is a family sacrifice (ahem, I mean affair.)

Seriously, when L gets her degree, I want to take the boys and walk the stage with her. We've all earned it. 

Two*True

2brides:

I think when someone gets a PhD, everyone in the family should walk across the stage and get a degree. It certainly is a family sacrifice (ahem, I mean affair.)

Seriously, when L gets her degree, I want to take the boys and walk the stage with her. We've all earned it. 

100% agreed!