5 year wedding vow renewal...?

prettygirl06

Has anyone considered this? Dh and I were talking about doing something really small once we reach this (next year) with only a few friends and family.

xnickerx

I don't ever seeing us doing one. But if you and I were pretty close and you invited me to yours, I would be mad keen on going.

LoopyNoodle

I'd love to have a big shindig but we've passed our first 5th anniverary and didn't. Maybe the 5th of the church wedding (2011) but then it just gets too complicated. I'd say go for it if it feels right

ukyankee

We didn't have anything in London which meant a lot of our friends here didn't come to our wedding.  So we might do a 5th year or 10th year anniversary renewal...but not sure.

snowyowl

Not my thing, but I think of vow renewals as something people do after 25 or 50 years. My parent's friends did it for the 30th because it coincided with their youngest graduating college. It was nice because they were renewing after raising four kids together, a real "look at us now" moment. It isn't like I would give you the side-eye for doing it or anything, but maybe a nice little party for the 5 year and then save the more ceremonial stuff like vow renewal for a later anniversary? 

rpic81

I would give the side eye, to be honest. Big party? Sure. Full on vow renewal? Not so much. It just hasn't been long enough.

GilliC

We didn't, but I'm thinking of doing a vow renewal for our 10-year.  Nothing with friends and family.  Just something private for us, maybe with a minister.  I feel like we've been through a lot in the last 6 years, and we're different people then we were on our wedding day.  I'd like the chance to do it again and "officially" reconfirm our commitment to each other.

ETA in 2013...  Zombie post is resurrected from the ancient crypt!!!  I guess we didn't make it to 10!  We certainly went through a lot in 6 years, and instead of a vow renewal, it was divorce papers!  But happier for us both.

treesapplaud

We just had our five year. We will probably have a celebration on our 10 year. Even if it isn't 25 or 50, its a big deal to us. We want to go back to where we got married in Greece and invite the people who came the first time around along with our closest friends/family. Its a gorgeous place and nice to all have a holiday together.

tdown

We had our 5 year this summer, and barely made time for dinner together!

I think it is a really nice idea to honor the 5 year milestone with something that is meaningful for the both of you.  Vow renewal wouldn't be for us, but if it would be meaningful for you guys, you should go for it!

prettygirl06

Thanks for the candid responses ladies. Dh and I are still in the planning phases. Of course it is not for everyone but I love the idea of doing this before children (which are maybe down the road.)

Thanks again for your honesty!

sappyjenn

DH and I have been married for less than a year and have already discussed doing a vow renewal for our 5 year anniversary.  The thing is, it's not just some random thing.  DH was going through some awful medical issues at the time and was taking medicine that made him depressed and unmotivated.  He told me recently that he would like to have another ceremony and redo our honeymoon trip because he didn't feel like he enjoyed these things like he should have.

So I say that if you have a good reason to have a vow renewal ceremony, then do it!  Or just have a big anniversary party if you don't want to do the ceremony part.

b92411

I know this an old post but... I personally don't see one thing wrong with a vow renewal if it's truly about reaffirming your love for each other and the commitment . I see most people get hung up on whether or not you've been married long enough to reaffirm your vows. I think that train of thought is silly and antiquated. The fact of the matter is, is that you can't get to year 5 if you don't make it to and through years 2-4! In addition to that, not all marriages end voluntarily. I believe Each year is an accomplishment especially when you can look at the man or woman you chose and say..."Yes, I am still in love with you and committed to us even more today than I knew possible when we married ... 3, 8,13, 22 (etc) years ago." I am simply saying, the "odd" numbered years SHOULD have just as much value as the ones that are divided by 5. Remember you CANNOT make it to the 25th or 50th anniversaries without putting in the work on the earlier years. Why not celebrate some of those too?

GilliC

b92411 said:

I know this an old post but... I personally don't see one thing wrong with a vow renewal if it's truly about reaffirming your love for each other and the commitment . I see most people get hung up on whether or not you've been married long enough to reaffirm your vows. I think that train of thought is silly and antiquated. The fact of the matter is, is that you can't get to year 5 if you don't make it to and through years 2-4! In addition to that, not all marriages end voluntarily. I believe Each year is an accomplishment especially when you can look at the man or woman you chose and say..."Yes, I am still in love with you and committed to us even more today than I knew possible when we married ... 3, 8,13, 22 (etc) years ago." I am simply saying, the "odd" numbered years SHOULD have just as much value as the ones that are divided by 5. Remember you CANNOT make it to the 25th or 50th anniversaries without putting in the work on the earlier years. Why not celebrate some of those too?

Hey there @b92411!  Nice to see someone else around this ghost town!  What brings you to the international board?

Qarol

Our eight year is coming up, and we're doing this. But no actual ceremony with a minister or anything. Basically, I'm recreating the small wedding I had but the way I want (without in-law's terrible behavior). We'll have a private toast on a rooftop balcony, where we'll say "I do" again. An hour long photo shoot in the garden we got married in. A romantic dinner for two. A professional cake made and delivered to the same bed & breakfast room we spent our wedding night in. I'll be wearing my original wedding dress (which wasn't very formal) but with a few modifications to make it "new." Perfect.