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Advice on tough work situation please
So I have been having issues a coworker I work with on a daily basis for a long time now. I went to my boss a couple months ago about possibly switching positions and she asked me point blank if I was having a problem with my coworker. I felt so put on the spot and wasn't prepared to talk about it that I didn't know what to say. I told her a little bit about it and then things started to get better. So a month or so after that I go to my boss and said "thanks for listening, things have gotten better".
Well things have just gone down hill again and today it was the frosting on the cake. I can't possibly work another day with this woman. She asked me to do something I was uncomfortable doing and I respectfully told her so and asked her if maybe we could switch places so she could do it if that's how she wanted it done. She said no and made me do it anyways. So I have to talk to my boss on Monday.
I'm afraid I'm going to look like a hypocrite if I had just told her I was happy and things were better 
I don't know what to do. I'm torn. I just know that I'm very unhappy.
Someone also told me that someone might be leaving and she will be taking her position and I'm afraid that my boss will give me the open position and then my coworker who thought she had it will have to take my place.
This is such a mess 
I hate to cause drama and I try so hard to get along with people and respect people but this is getting to be so difficult.
Re: Advice on tough work situation please
I would talk to your boss again.
I have learned that when working with kids, your gut feeling is usually right. If you just don't feel comfortable doing something, don't do it. You need to do what is the best for you whether is causes a little drama or not, you need to be happy.
I think you need to tell your boss exactly what you just told us. That you realize she had asked you about the coworker in the past but she took you by surprise and you were just taken aback. And that you realize you should have said something sooner but that things were getting better so you had high hopes for a better work environment.
That's extremely out of line for the coworker to make you do something you were uncomfortable with and you need to stand your ground when you talk to your boss. I hope it works out for the best.
Keep us updated!
You will not look like a hypocrite if you talk to your boss again. I'm sure she knows that these things can be hard to resolve. At least she knows you were trying to have a positive attitude about it.
I didn't quite follow the last part. Would you prefer the new position to the one you have now, all other things being equal? (aka, no pita coworker to think of) If so, then take it if your boss offers. You have to worry about yourself. If you want it and boss wants to give it to you, then do it. That may sound selfish, but being unhappy at work is a terrible feeling and it can drag your whole state of mind down with it.
Unfortunately, I know how badly it sucks to be in a situation like this. One thing I've noticed is that if you are having this problem with your coworker, chances are someone else has as well. And your boss is probably aware.
Crossing my fingers that all goes well for you on Monday!
I just realized I should have added that what she wanted me to do in no way endangered any of the children. I don't want to be too specific but I realize that could have been read that way.
Stacy I got that vibe from her the first time I talked to her because she said "I know she can be like..." and kind of left it hanging so I think that other people have said stuff.
The problem is is that I have heard coworker and boss are close. I don't know if that's true or just gossip though.
I would not have to deal with her at all if I got this new position that's opening up. If I end up floating (not ideal) I might have to deal with her occasionally but that's fine, I can handle that I think.