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Unruly houseguests
I hosted my housewarming party last night and had a mix of friends from high school, college, work and family. I served beer and wine and some people brought liquor of their own. I thought it went really well until a girl I know from college drank way too much (she had brought her own bottle and was doing shots in my den without my knowledge) and became sloppy drunk around 9:30. She was crying, hitting her boyfriend, and making a scene. She couldn't stand up and had to be carried out.
I have never seen this girl act like this before and needless to say, I was mortified. We got her a DD to take her safely home and then the party continued. I was still mad this morning and my question is:
Is it going too far to not invite this girl to anymore events where there will be alcohol? I don't want to write her off for this behavior, but it really bothered me.TIA
Re: Unruly houseguests
It's your home, so you're within your rights to decide who can and cannot enter it. If you found her behavior to be rude, then, no, don't invite her.
Personally, I wouldn't unless she apologized and recognized how ridiculous she acted and I felt like it was a one time deal. If I suspected that it might be par for the course when she drinks, I wouldn't have her over again. The fact that she brought her own liquor to someone's housewarming party kind of sums it up for me. She seems to be stuck in college mode.
Agree except that there might be an reason she displayed bad judgement this one time. I think it would partly depend on whether she contacted you herself and SOON to apologize and explain herself.
She sounds like she might have a serious drinking problem. I wouldn't have her over again - especially if you are serving alcohol. You don't need the liability issues and unfortunately her behavior will only improve if she recognizes how out-of-control she is. I agree with the other posters that she should call you to apologize...
I have hosted a few larger parties in our home (50 plus) guests and we stopped inviting a certain family because the wife has a booze problem and is a recovering addict. She has been known to empty the medicine cabinets and pop all the pills she can find. When I have guests I don't know come over - I always hide all of my medications and jewelry and stuff now... but who wants to worry about that.
Cheers! and Have a Happy and Safe Holiday
I say that you are perfectly within your rights to remove her from the guest list. She clearly disrespected you and your home as well as your other guests.
I personally had this happen at a pool party this summer but it got much worse...the girl along with her clan-ish friends proceeded to verbally attack another friend to the point that they chased her around my house. Then they yelled at me screaming profanities in my backyard, laundry room, and front yard. All of this in front of a small child. It was so bad that we had to cancel our annual Halloween party because all guests were so put off by this girl's behavior that we had no one that wanted to come to our parties.
So, I say stand firm on how people behave at your home--there is no greater disrespect than to cause a scene in someone else's home.
Oh, wow! I feel for you. All the next day, I had people calling me to say,"We had a nice time except..." I felt terrible. Thanks for validating my decision, everyone.