Money and Friends - WWYD?

shagadelk7

A friend of mine had a baby shower Nov 1. A group of about 10 of us decided that we would all go in on a big gift for her, each of us pitching in about $40. I said I didn't mind being the one who bought the gift. Every friend (except 1) has paid me in some way or another before the shower, at the shower, or tranferred money to me.

I ended up having to leave the shower a bit early before one of the friends who intended on paying me at the shower got there. I emailed the friend the following day saying 'sorry I missed you at the shower, please send me a check for the $40. here's my address" ( I hardly ever see this girl)

She replied saying she would send me a check somewhere around Nov 5th. I hadn't heard from her for a long time so I emailed her 3 or so weeks ago reminding her that she owed me $40 and gave her my address again. I haven't heard anything from her.

 I feel like a dbag emailing her again, but wtf, just send me the damn money, I know she has it. I hate mixing money and friends. What would you do in this situation. Do you think I should wait longer and assume she'll pay me, or should I remind her again? 

 

Leigha12

I'd email her again and add a line like "with the holidays coming up, I could really use that money" whether you mean it or not. Sadly many people don't pay up until hounded.

vhcoleman09

I would remind her again. I hate when this happens (and it inevitably does every once in a while). If it's been a while, typically I say that I need it for something for other (e.g., the holidays) and please let me know when I can expect it. That usually works. Do you think you'll see her anytime soon? If so, maybe you could hold off, but if not, I'm not against pestering.

mamie329

I'd bring it up again. If she thinks you're a pushy d-bag, oh well. It's not like you don't hear that all the time. (haha)

Also, $40 can buy quite a few beers. 

Philly6*6*09

If you hardly ever see this girl, I would just e-mail her again.

hawkilady

I would ask again... wouldnt bother to me to be a pestering biatch about it if I hardly ever see the girl.  She may have legitimately forgot.  I owed some friends a deposit for a Gatlinburg trip we are making in Feb.  Emailed them telling them I was putting a check in the mail and then forgot for the next 2 weeks.  I felt awful when I got an email reminding me but I'm glad they sent it.  Although its shady that she hasnt responded to either of your emails.

shagadelk7

That's the thing, she's being shady about it. I know she read my email, at least have the common decency to email me back saying sorry you forgot and that you'd send it over. It's not even that it's a lot of money, it's the principle of the matter.

 My whole thing is, I have serious money guilt and I am very conscious of money in any way, shape, or form. If I owe someone or someone owes me any money it's the first thing on my mind, and I expect other people to be like that. (obviously this isn't the case).

 I just texted her and told her to send me a check. I got no reply.

mamie329

I will drive up there and bust some kneecaps.

shagadelk7

You should just drive here regardless of the kneecaps that need busting. Bring some lager with you on your trip and I will be forever grateful.

mamie329

I'm bringing popcorn for the Yazmeister too.

angelfire0412

mamie329:

I will drive up there and bust some kneecaps.

Ditto this.

What a skeez this chick is. UGH, so annoying. Basically I got very screwed too every time I was a MOH or something like that. I just ended up eating it rather than tracking people down. Annoying though!?