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Daughter issue...WWYD? Long
Ok, my closest friend and her daughter are in the same class together and because of us they spend alot of time together. Her daughter is loud and obnoxious and acts in a manner that I do not want my daughter behaving. If she does not get her way she cries and stomps off. Her mom nurtures her after this and does not scold her for her ill behavior. Well I have encouraged my daughter to make more friends and told her because I hang out with "Molly" that she does not have to be friends with her daughter. She has the right to be friends with other girls too. WELL my daughter has been attempting to make a new friend we will call her "June". Well "Jess" (Molly's daughter), has been hell bent on making sure that my daughter does not get to be too close of friends with June because Jess is friends with her too and she feels like my daughter is taking away her friends. She is one of the most emotional kids I have ever met. My daughter feels quite alone because every time she tries to get closer to another kid Jess wrecks it for her. In fact she is supposed to stay the night there (my daughter) this Saturday and Jess is trying everything in her power to no make June want my daughter over there (including telling her she won't be her friend any more). This is stupid drama! These kids are in 3rd grade BUT it is affecting my daughter. Thoughts? Am I going to have to sever my friendship with Molly? I really adore her; she is a great friend....just not the greatest parent. We have known them for 1 1/2 years and both my daughters know that Jess's behavior is NOT ok......but I think she is the most convienent friend...they live 1 block from us.
Re: Daughter issue...WWYD? Long
If your girls notice that Jess's behavior is not okay, then I'm sure that the girl your daughter is having a sleepover with recognizes it too. I'm sure that one of the kids will look at Jess and say, "back off, you're being a baby." If your daughter is hurt by Jess' behavior, then she should say something. Maybe you could host all three girls over for a sleepover, so Jess sees that they all can be friends.
What about outside school friends or girls in the other 3rd grade classes? Sport clubs, girl scouts, dance....invite some of those girls over...set up situations where your daughter can develope friendships.
I like the idea of the sleepover.
BUT - I also feel like this is the time that your daughter needs to learn a life lesson on her own. I think you have to let go of the reigns with this one. It has nothing to do with your friendship with Molly, so giving Molly the boot wouldn't make things better for your daughter.
It sounds like you have given your daughter all the tools necessary to combat the situation. The last thing she needs is her mom stepping in. But she should also feel like she can come to you for advice on the situation as it progresses (or hopefully stops). She needs to learn how to make new friends (and ward off bullies) on her own. If you always "make things right" for her, you're not allowing her to build necessary life skills that she will need as an adult.
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Both girls are in girl scouts. I am the troop leader. So I can't seperate that one.
Darn.
Maybe look for some stuff that's not year round. When I was little I used to do kids' crafting classes outside of school. It was stuff that was maybe once a week for 2 months or christmas crafts the second week in December. I took a few kids' cooking classes too that were pretty fun.