Oh Life...

MissAutumn

So.... Im living with Monk and im miserable!!! Naked Guy brought two chicks home on Sunday night and was showing them around the house. When they got there i closed our bedroom door and walked downstairs. He took them up there to show them the upstairs entertainment area and i guess took them into our bedroom where all of our stuff that we didnt want to put in storage is in and all of our private things (underwear laying in the cloths hamper and stuff) So, last night Naked Guy (aka Monk) told Ian that we needed to clean our room and that he was embarresed when he took the girls in there to see it. We were like "why the hell did you take them in there??" you have 6 other rooms to show them, why would you take to girls into see our space???  Naked Guy pulled the whole "its my house" so... were stuck and im on edge. I skipped dinner last night because i didnt want to t walk downstairs.... Lee and Missy you know why im stuck.. I feel like Ian and I had everything into motion for our life and now were back at square one and im depressed.... Anyway- I dont think ive been told to clean my room since i was in middle school....

eyecndi

I am NOT trying to be snarky but I missed the whole reason you are living there to begin with. ?Why not just get a place of your own? ?(Again, sorry I missed the answer to this a long time ago.)

MissAutumn

Ian and I just were trying to buy a house and we moved from Baldwin Park to Naked Guy to save 1875 per month (thats what weve been paying for the last 2 years) so Naked Guy said since he had a huge house we could stay with him to save more money for a Down Payment on a house. Living with him is saving us about 2000 a month just in rent and electric.

eyecndi

While I completely understand that, it seems to me like you would be better off just finding somewhere cheap to live on your own. ?You wouldn't be saving that much but at least you wouldn't have to worry about him anymore.

I have never been able to live with people so your situation would be tough for me. ?Whatever you decide....good luck.?

MissAutumn

I like my space as well, i have to drive my car everywhere so i have control of when to go and blablabla... so this sucks.

MrsRecioEst2007

I really wish I didn't live so far from the places you need to go bc I would offer for you both to stay in our guest bedroom for a while! It really sucks & I'm sorry this is happening but you need to tell Naked Guy that while you're paying rent on that room - it makes that room yours and your private area so he doesn't need to be going in there or telling you what to do with it!

snr4jhjr

OK No flames here but I have a few question. 

1.  Can you move to a small apartment or house - there are plenty - that dont cost that much $$ and do a small lease such as 6mth or a month to month.

Our 1st apartment wasnt the greatest place but at the time it was ours and to save $  We had a 1/1 for 600 mth. and it was in Conway area. 

 2.  How soon can you move from Naked guys??

 

rodiggity79

$2000/month is great to be able to save! I would stick it out and try to abide by what he wants until you save enough to get your own place.

We let one of Thad's friends stay in our spare bedroom for a year before we were married. We didn't really check on it much ... but when he moved out, we found out how much damage he had done by not cleaning and breaking things in the bathroom. So for me, I wish I would've checked on the condition of the room more than I did.

I guess it still is his house even though you are staying there (which is one of the downs of living in someone else's home).

Good luck with everything

NewlyMrsM.

I agree.  No flames here either, and I don't know your situation, but its really hard to live with other people.  I'd rather live in a not so nice place alone than at someone elses mercy.

I have a condo thats available in Sept.  If you're interested pm me.  In any case, I hope you find a solution to your situation. 

Emmerjill21

I am not flaming...

It is his house, though.  It would be nice if he would respect your privacy but that might not happen.  If you wanted to be snarky you could invite friends over and take them on a tour of his private area and see how he likes it...or you could lock your doors when he has guests over...

 

Mrs.DMC

Eh....I am torn. It is his house....his house, his rules......., but If he is going to graciously open it up for you to stay he needs to respect your privacy. If he cant do that than he should have never offered it to you.

 

 

Mrs Scubaqueen

Yeah that's kinda wierd, especially when there were so many other places to go and see to get a feel of the place. 

Evidently he hasn't had a lot of roommates before, because that is one of the things I first said when I owned my condo and got a roommate.  Her space was hers, mine was mine, and we didn't go into each other's space.  Common areas were to be kept clean at all times.

Contrary to prevous poster I wouldn't start a well I'll show you war, because that can't end in a good way with you having to move out because you're having all this trouble and possibly ending a friendship because of it.   

I'm sure you thought about renting a place on your own that was different before you moved in but ould save more money this way.  Keep your eyes on the $ prize....if you have a specific time frame maybe you can focus on that? 

MrsEAM

I kinda see both sides on this one too. My advice would be to stick it out for at least another month, but I think in the meantime, I'd be looking for a cheap 1/1 apartment to rent somewhere. Even if you had to spend $1k on "living" you'd still be able to save $1k a month too. I'd say having your space is worth that (not to mention that you and Ian are going to eventually really need some alone time, and I don't mean just for nooky

MrsErinH

Aw, Autumn, I'm sorry to hear about this...it really stinks that this guy isn't respecting your privacy and I'd feel the same way as you about everything. My only advice would be to have Ian sit down and have a little man-to-man chat with the guy and ask him to not bring guests into your room when you guys aren't around. If you are paying rent, the guy should respect your privacy. If you are living there for free, unfortunately I think you don't have a say. Hopefully this guy will be more respectful in the future!