Rings

hawkilady

I forgot my rings this morning because I was frosting cookies last night and so I took them off to avoid getting frosting in them and completely forgot to put them back on after cleaning up.  Then left in a hurry this morning and realized it about 10 minutes later.  I feel naked.  And my boss asked me if something was wrong...

megs1383

that is the worst feeling ever! ive only forgotten to wear my ring like 2x since the wedding, and it always ends up being on the day of a family function, or times when someone would really notice.

angelfire0412

Oh sorry Hawki! That is a yucky feeling. I hate being in public without mine. Just try to remember at least you know where they are! Thank goodness they aren't lost or anything.

mamie329

I've made DH turn the car around to get my forgotten rings a few times. I hate that feeling! I'm totally fine with not wearing my rings at home, but the second I have to be out and seeing people, my finger feels incredibly naked.

hawkilady

I've never forgotten mine before (because I rarely take them off) but if I wouldnt have been late this morning, I would have gone back to get them as I was only about 5 miles away but I had to be to work early today since evidently my boss likes to make me work 80 hours a week right now and I was already late because I got caught behind a school bus.

kaleyandjason

I haven't forgot my rings since the wedding, but I did forget my engagement ring once. I felt completely lost without it, so I know how you feel! Hope your day gets better.

SBS0628

I'm sorry you forgot your rings. And it does make me feel totally naked to be out in public without them as well...

Though I do find it somewhat silly/amusing that whenever a married woman IS without her rings, the immediate reaction seems to be "Oh no, what's wrong?!?!" I don't really understand this. Are we not allowed to be forgetful? Are we not allowed to take them off? I don't remember getting a memo from The Knot that I had "Surgically implant wedding band to your finger" outstanding on my checklist....maybe I should log in and make sure?

Which leads me to my follow-up question -- do any of your DHs get asked the same types of questions (is everything okay? hey, where's your ring?) if/when he forgets to wear his? Something tells me this is just done to women...I'm curious now...

mamie329

SBS, my H notices when people are or are not wearing wedding rings FAR more than I do. It's weird. And he does speculate. But I think he's not common in that.

hawkilady

I think women notice more often than men do... Todd had no idea I walked out of the house without my rings on.  But I do think its more of a double standard as I know a lot of guys who dont wear their wedding ring as a result of job restrictions, complaints about comfort, etc.  However, Todd will wear his forever, he's never complained but we got him the comfort fit band so he would have less reason to.

stjoespirit04

I forgot my engagement ring at home when I was working for a law firm one day, and EVERYONE commented on it. It actually made me kinda confused because I was in a great mood that day, which led me to if I had just broken off an engagement, would they think I'd be in a bad mood? Or crying? Or something not jovial?

I notice missing rings, but B notices when we're at parties and someone's SO isn't there. This weekend, one of his coworkers was at an office party without his wife*, and B was judging. I loved it.

*Guy admitted his wife just didn't want to come. It was an awkward convo when I asked if she was around. Whoops.

clarisa_b

mamie329:

I've made DH turn the car around to get my forgotten rings a few times. I hate that feeling! I'm totally fine with not wearing my rings at home, but the second I have to be out and seeing people, my finger feels incredibly naked.

This. 

RedZee

C doesn't notice anything ring-related.

I also wonder if people would comment if one of us wasn't wearing a ring. I don't think anyone I associate with would notice at all. A couple of months ago I forgot to put my rings back on and I went to my parents' house and I don't think anyone noticed.

I notice rings (and when they aren't worn) all the time but I never assume a relationship ended just because the ring isn't on. Actually, I'd be more inclined to think there was a problem if the guy didn't have his ring on as opposed to if the woman didn't. Women are more inclined to take off rings for various reasons. Men generally leave them on and don't pay attention.

keb270

I haven't forgotten my rings since we got married, but I forgot my engagement ring when we were first engaged. I made up this whole story that it was being insured and needed to be appraised because SO many people asked where it was.

Dh and I both notice rings a lot now. DH gets upset if he gets into bed without wearing him. It's totally cute.

chrissyvcm

Mike doensn't even wear his ring. He's not allowed to wear any jewelry at all during the week, not even a watch (because of training). On the weekends, when he puts his watch on, he leaves his wedding band on the band of his watch. When I ask him, "Hey! Why aren't you wearing your ring?" he always holds up his wrist and says, "I am."

I will give him a break though because he has lost a ton of weight since being in training so his ring doesn't fit him, and he can't resize it because it's Tungsten.

I, on the other hand, haven't gone a day without mine yet. I've gone to bed without them a time or two (I take them off to shower), but quickly got up and put them on once I realized. I'm sure my time will come, but so far I haven't forgotten them.