WWYD? NYE

HokieLaw

A few months ago some friends and I bought tickets to go to a Jeff Dunham show for NYE.  There were 2 couples (me, MH, my friend H and her FI) and two singles.  one of the singles had bought an extra ticket and intended to bring her sister.

Single 1, we'll call her J, told me last week that she is bringing her exboyfriend.  They apparently have reconciled (but she didn't tell any of us about said reconciliation).  Her ex is a jerk, to say the least.  I won't go into details but let's just say I'm not a fan of him.  In fact, me, MH, H and her FI all have strong negative feelings towards him. 

Me, H, MH and H's FI are all supposed to share a 2 bedroom suite and the singles (plus the exbf) are going to share a suite.  H and I both are to the point where we really don't want to go because of the ex coming.  Neither of us have told our men about the addition because H knows FI will not want to be near exbf and I know that MH won't want to either. 

So, our options are: the four of us back out and go to Atlanta instead (bowl game) or the four of us go and spend as much time together, without the singles and exbf.  WWYD?

Paula051907

Seeing as I'd already purchased the tickets, I'd go to the Jeff Dunham show and just try to hang out with H and her FI while semi-ignoring J, her excuse for a bf, and let the other single decide where he/she wants to hang out.  Does that make sense?

GreysGirl

I was going to say exactly what Paula said, I know it's easier said than done but try not to let this guy ruin your good time.

Paula051907

GreysGirl:

I was going to say exactly what Paula said, I know it's easier said than done but try not to let this guy ruin your good time.

Get outta my head, woman! LOL

Truly, if I avoided EVERY person that sounds like this guy (really worthless to society), I'd never see my family for my Father being there.  Sometimes you deal with the asshat in the crowd FOR the sake of seeing the crowd. LOL  Besides, the other single person may be SO INCREDIBLY grateful to be able to have you and the other couple to retreat to.  If you think it sucks hanging out with the douchebag, try sharing a suite with him!

Duffinger

Exactly what Paula said.  If you make your plans around every douchenozzle around, you'll never get to do anything fun.  Just go, hang out w/YH, H and her FI and try to ignore the jerk.  If it comes down to it, it's amazing what a few cocktails can do for your mood.  ;-)

HokieLaw

H and I have been texting back and forth saying the same things  you guys are saying.  I know she, her FI, MH and I will all have fun together.  My biggest issue with the exbf is that he was not only mean to J, but he was a jerk to me too (which means MH is really pissed at him).  I guess we'll just make due with what we have.

H and I both agreed to tell FI and MH about him coming tonight and see what their reactions are.  Wish us luck!

blairsgirl

Good luck with telling YH.  But I agree with Paula and everyone else.  Don't let them ruin your good time.  Ignore them.  Spend as little time with them as possible.  But these are the plans you made.  You shouldn't have to change them.  Does your friend know how you feel about her exbf? I'm assuming she does that's why she didn't tell you they reconciled.

HokieLaw

She definitely knows how we feel about him.  When she told me they reconciled I just kind of stared at her like "WHAT?"  and then told her to be careful because of what he did (which is such a crappy thing to do to a person that I can't even imagine forgiving him).  She didn't even tell H, I had to tell her, because she knew how H would react.  Which included a lot of curse words.