How did you meet?

Michle315

I joined the board late and actually really don't know most of you. (or know you as you could through a message board.) So I was wondering how did you and your DH meet? How long were you dating before the big question was popped? Was it a long engagement?

I had just gotten out of a long relationship who is the father of my 2 children. We were together for over 7 years but never felt like he was the "one" never saw myself married to him. So anyways we broke up and a few months later I put an ad on craigslist, not even really looking for a new relationship. Just looking for someone adult conversation and someone to hang out with. I wanted someone with kids since I have 2. It started with just hanging out with the kids and doing things with them. A few weeks later we were seeing each other. I moved in with him in June, and then he asked me to marry him the end of June. He is my soulmate, I never thought I would even be saying that. We were engaged for a few months and decided we better just get married. Why wait when we know its each other we want to spend our lives with.

tmm140

We met at a bar through my ex's brother.  The he messaged me on Myspace.  He proposed a year and a half later and we had a year engagment.  We will be together 3 years in March.

Fotophreak4c

We grew up together in the neighborhood, I've known him since i was about 13 or 14. We dated for 3 yrs before the proposal and 4 yrs from the wedding day. It is kinda neat to grow up with someone, know their troubles as they grew up and watch them change. Then, it's a little weird when you start falling for each other lol but cool at the same time 

AmandaJ53

We met online in March 2007. He wanted to go on a date...but I had just had a horrible breakup and was done dating period! He convinced me. We were instantly best friends. I know it sounds hokey but it's true. We dated for 2 years. He proposed to me on March 7, 2009. He wanted me to pick the ring out so he tied a straw (from his drink) around my finger. The next week we found a ring. We were married 6 months later!

Reinedumonde

DH and I met on a massive blind date in college.  Everyone's roommate was supposed to set them up with someone they didn't know and I happened to be around when DH's roommate decided it was time to find DH a date.  We were "just friends" for about 6 months after that, but I knew he was the was soon as I met him. 

We got engaged after 3.5 years of dating.  It was more of a mutual decision than a proposal since, after MIL's not-so-subtle hints that a local jeweler was going out of business, we just went out and bought a ring together.  We got married 10 months after that, exactly 4.5 years after we started dating.

ChickFallaize

When I moved down to Atlanta for graduate school, we were introduced by some mutual friends. We met actually, at his ex gf's bday party... awkward. lol. But anyways, after meeting the first time, he friended me on facebook, and we started hanging out the next week. He was the only guy I dated in Atlanta... fell in loooooove. We got engaged after a year and a half of dating and got married a year later. 

munkii

We met through Match.com.  His profile popped out the last day of my membership--last day because I decided it was a waste of money and meeting people IRL was easier and better.  Well, low-and-behold Match worked!  We went on a few dates, and I decided he was "too nice" and "just friend material".  Six months later, I was kicking myself.  We've known each other since 05 and got together (officially) in Jan 06.  He proposed in Aug 08, and we were engaged just over a year. 

Karen2905

LOL, well, it depends how you look at it.

You could say that we met online.  After years of trying Match.com and eHarmony, I finally decided to try Yahoo Personals as one last ditch effort.  Funny that he should do the same at the same time!   I was originally out of his age range; he was 29, looking in the 25-35 age group and I was 24.5.    Luckily, I found him and he decided to let the age thing slide for once.

You could also say that we met at a biker bar.  We decided, after several emails and phone calls, to meet up at what looked like a fun bar between where we lived in the Chicagoland area.  When I got there, it turned out to be this shanty of a place with a gravel parking lot (...in suburban Chicago? Who knew!?).  DH was standing outside of his car with this nervous "nice to meet you - let's get out of here" look on his face. We ended up going out for burgers, and the rest is history!

So whether we met online or at a biker bar... whatever story you like better!  

jlk0219

I met DH my senior year of college when we started working together at a sportswear company. Actually, when I first met him I thought he might be gay- a guy working in an embroidery department?? But he didn't dress well enough : )  We were both in relationships with other people at the time do it started out as friends. It wasn't too long after that that he broke it off with his gf (they had been on rocky terms for awhile) and he asked me out salsa dancing with a bunch of his friends. So we went out for mojitos and salsa dancing- and it was the sexiest "date" I had ever been on. I ended it with my commitment-phobic long-distance bf and DH and I started dating. We dated a year before he proposed (on our 1 year anniversary) and we were engaged for a total of 3.5 years. I know, I know... forever. But actually for one year of that time we were not engaged cause I broke off the engagement. DH went through this period where he could not get his sh*t together and it spooked me. Then he re-propsed and we got married almost exactly 5 years after we first met!

mom2one14

We met while I was working at the local elementary school and he was the manager at the local grocery store. My work needed to build a float for the town parade, and the grocery store was our sponser so we built it there. We kinda saw each other but didn't really talk, but a few nights later he hung out with my boss, got my number from her and called me up. After that we started texting and hanging out a little and it just went from there.

We dated for about 2.5 years before he proposed, and then we had a 22 month engagement after that.

brookeyfrench

How to explain this...The short version is that DH is the friend of a friend of a friend. My BF Sam went to college and met Spike; Spike moved to KC where he met DH at his new job. I then moved to KC. Sam came in to town to visit and thought it would be cool if Spike and I met. I went over to Spikes to see Sam and Spikes friend from work (DH) was also there. We clicked immediately. We dated for 4 years when he proposed (would have been sooner but my brother also got engaged) and got married six months later b

kellieandjason

I met DH through his sister. His sister and I worked together at Walmart and became really good friends. SHe kept saying that we should meet. So I was getting out of class and called her and said lets go play pool. She was like ok im going to bring my brother and I was like cool. So we met at a pool hall and from that day on we were always hanging out. We dated for 3.5 yrs before we got engaged and we were engaged for 1.5 yrs.

wittyschaffy

Hubby and I met through Yahoo Personals too!  had our first date at a local wine bar and I didn't even get all the way home from the date before he called to ask me out again.  We dated for just about 2 years before we got engaged and had a 10 1/2 month engagement.  He popped the question standing on the spot we ultimately got married!  I had wanted to get married in this gorgeous Sunken Garden in our local botanical gardens so he booked the date and time of our wedding months before we were even engaged.  He proposed via invitation to our wedding with a note saying "Schaffy, will you marry me?" on the back (and yes, I still have it!).

nicoleabrock

We met at work and I asked him out because he was too chicken.  I don't work there anymore (quit 10mos after I asked him out).  We dated for over 6 years before he proposed and 7 years until we got married.  I was 22 when I met him and am 29 now so I feel like we  have grown so much together.  I can't imagine my life without him. He's my bestest buddy.

mikesboo23

We went to high school together and had a lot of the same friends but never met.  One day he saw my picture on a mutual friend's myspace and thought I was cute so he messaged me saying just that and asking how I knew the mutual friend.  We talked on there a bit and figured out we had a lot in common and our paths had crossed a million times before.  About a month later he asked me on our first date and we've been together ever since.

We dated 2.5 yrs before getting engaged and were engaged 1.5yrs so we've been together a total of 4 years now. 

glitterspank

DH and I are both attorneys and met at a CLE (continuing legal education) seminar in November 2007.  I almost didn't go because I had too much work to do, but ended up bringing it along with me since the (mandatory) seminar was just ethics and nothing I didn't already know.  DH came up during one of the breaks and talked to the girl next to me who he used to work with - he didn't like her at all but thought she knew me and could introduce us.  When he saw he was wrong, he busted out the bogus line "Hey you look familiar, didn't we go to law school together."  I was in no way interested in dating him or anyone at that time because I hated Indianapolis especially in the winter and did not want to get attached to someone here and ruin my chances of moving back to NOLA.  So I was pretty dismissive, a little rude even, but he was unfazed.  I finally gave him my business card and he started emailing me the next week.  He called the day after Thanksgiving and asked me to a Pacers game (I HATE sports) and I again blew him off until he begged and made me feel bad so I went.  It ended up being the best first date ever!  he lived in DC at the time so we dd the long distance thing until he moved back to Indy in May 2008.  He started talking marriage around February 2008, which oddly did not horrify me (I was very anti-marriage up to that point).  We were soon making plans and had everything decided and booked by June 2008.  However, the "official" engagement (one knee, speech, ring, etc.) didn't take place until our 1 year meeting anniversary on November 8, 2008.  We married this October 24, one month shy of our 2 year anniversary.  We did it all wrong and backwards, but it all worked out for us although I still can't believe I actually got married!

krc18

We met my freshman, his sophomore year in college through his roommate. We started out as friends and before we knew it it sort of just evolved into something more. I was moving over the summer and so was he so I didn't want anything serious but I decided to give it a try...little did I know we were changing to the same university. We had been dating for 3 years when he proposed and were engaged for a year and 3 months before we got married.

Witchys_Woman

We met while we both worked at Wal Mart of all places. He really looked like a guy I had graduated high school with and that kinda got me talking to him. He had a GF at the time and I just got out of a real stinker of a relationship so wasn't looking for anything anyways. Low and behold him and his GF break up so we started spending more time together...the rest is history.

Cipolla2Be

DH and I met in college, lived on the same floor in the dorms.  I was a sophmore, he was a freshman.  We flirted for about 6 months but dated other people.  Then made it serious.  Have been together almost 7 years and got engaged in May 2008, married October 2009.  Crazy how time goes by SO fast!

MrsKelley1010

I've only posted once or twice since wedding day so I'm a little behind as well but here's our story:

Luke and I met through a mutual friend, by accident (we weren't set up or anything). We just both happened to be at Benn's apartment the same night... Our eyes met, sparks flew, the whole shebang... That was March 10, 2006. We started officially dating March 20th after a couple dates and very late nights getting to know each other over the phone. We moved in together in December of 06 and he proposed on August 13, 2008 (my 21st birthday). Our engagement was just over one year, we were married on October 10, 2009.  

Krissie117

DH and I met seven years ago.  My family moved to Maine and I stayed in Massachusetts to finish college.  DH was my cousin's neighbor, and we became friends.  While I finished college, I was still dating my HS boyfriend, and eventually was engaged to him.  It was a very unhealthy relationship, and ended badly.  For a while I was enjoying working in Boston and just being young in the city.  The whole time, DH had a crush on me, but he had always stayed in the "friend zone." A couple summers ago, my dad (who has Multiple Sclerosis) ended up hurting his back and was in the hospital.  I spent a lot of time in Maine helping out my mom, dad and little brother.  DH spent a lot of time with us and helping, too.  Something just clicked between us that summer and we have been inseperable ever since.  We dated a year and our engagement was six months. 

breebug23

DH and I met when we were in high school, I was a freshman and he was a sophmore.  We lived about 3 blocks away and just kind of kept running into each other.  One day we starting talking and were pretty much inseperable after that! We were sitting on the stairs of our local church when DH asked me out.  I know it sounds corny, but I knew at 14 that I would marry him.  We dated a LONG time before we got engaged...12 years.  We went through a lot, both of his parents got sick and he had to help out at home putting a hold on our plans.  And just when we thought we were in the clear, we bought our own house and started planning a wedding I was diagnosed with cancer.  It's been a long hard road but 14 years to the day (Oct 23) after he asked me out we got married in the church where he first asked me to be his girlfriend! I made sure to get lots of pictures of us on those church stairs! It was such a special moment, I felt like we had really come full circle!

chayer227

We both worked at a recreational summer camp during the summer of `03.  I was in a failing relationship at the time, and really needed some good reason to get myself out.  DH was it. 

We dated exactly 5 years before he proposed, but it was worth waiting for. He proposed on our anniversary - the 4th of July, so I literally saw fireworks that night!    We were engaged 15 months before the wedding.  

bethicacon

DH and I met at a church picnic. A woman that I work with though that we should meet so she took me to the picnic. Turns out when we each heard the name we recognized it because his sister was two years behind me in school and he would come help out with band competitions because his sister was in the band. We met June 28, 2008; got engaged January 28, 2009; and then married October 17. We actually haven't even been together for 2 years yet.

Jezzabella08

I also, have been very bad about posting since the wedding, but I do still lurk and have some idea of what's going on with everyone!

I worked at a dental office when I met my DH. I was actually in an unhealthy 2 year relationship at the time. His family came in as new patients, and he was the only one of the family that hadn't scheduled an appointment. His mom and sister went home and told him about me, that he had to schedule an appointment and come meet me. His mom told him that he was going to marry me (yet we hadn't even met!) Once he came in, we just clicked... after a month or two, of seeing each other in the office for appointments, he took me out to lunch and we've spent everyday together since. I had since broken up with my boyfriend, and we were "officially" dating 2 weeks later. We got engaged on our one year anniversary, and were married 15 months later on October 17, 2009. His mom still says that she's the reason we're together and that she picked me out!

juangela

Well...DH and I meet in fall of 2003 in a Yahoo Music Chatroom talking about emo/punk music. I was in college in VT and he was living in DC. We exchanged AIM names and would talk frequently. I had a radio show, he used to call in to request songs since we web cast and he used to listen.

In December, during finals, I got really sick and couldn't sit up long enough to be on the computer. He asked if he could call me instead and I figured, what the hell, he already knew where I went to school, if he wanted to come kill me he could . So, I gave him my #, he called and we talked for 7 hours that night, and the following two! (So much for getting the rest I needed to get better!)

He came to visit me January 14th, 2004 and we've been together ever since. I moved to DC after graduation. We got engaged on Christmas in 2005, but had a super long engagement (clearly). I broke it off for a bit and I think we really just weren't ready to take that step, even though we knew we wanted to be together. I was also terrified of the cost of hosting the event. It all has turned out for the best, though, and I couldn't be happier with my life with him!

2dBride

Someone that both NotFroofy and I knew online got us to take a psychological test at TheSpark.com.  Supposedly, if you took it, it would tell you how compatible you were with your friends, and also with your friends' friends.  It said that NotFroofy and I were 100% compatible.  At that point, both of us asked our mutual friend to introduce us.

We IMed for a couple of months.  At the time, NotFroofy was an accountant living in England.  She had recently quit her job and was in the process of selling her house.  Her plan was to take the proceeds of the house sale and use it to take a 6-month course to retrain for a career as a Web designer.

I suggested that rather than go to London or somewhere to take the course, she take it in the Washington, DC area.  She could stay with me  during that time, which would both save her money and enable us to get to know each other in real life.  If things didn't work out between us, I had a basement apartment that used to be the live-in nanny's quarters, and she could just live there for the remainder of the six months, then go back to England to start her new career as a Web designer.

NotFroofy came for a week-and-a-half visit in December 1990 using the visa waiver program, then went back to the UK to get a visa that would enable her to stay in the US for the six-month training program.  She arrived back here in January 1991 on a six-month visa.  That eventually got exchanged for a student visa to enable her to take a master's program here, then a temporary work visa, and finally a green card (permanent residence).

Until July 31, 2008, although Massachusetts allowed same-sex marriage, couples from other states could not get married in Massachusetts if their home states did not recognize same-sex marriage. While Canada allowed same-sex marriage, if NotFroofy had left the country before she got her green card, she might have been denied the right to reenter the country.  Although California allowed same-sex marriage beginning June 16, 2008, it was not clear how long that would last, or what the status of California same-sex marriages would be if California ultimately banned same-sex marriage.

On July 31, 2008, Massachusetts began allowing same-sex marriages by people who were not Massachusetts residents.  On August 3, 2008, I proposed to NotFroofy. Although other states began allowing same-sex marriage after that, we had already started making our wedding plans for Massachusetts, so we just kept things as they were.  After nearly nine years together, we were married in Massachusetts on October 6, 2009--which was also my 56th birthday.