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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Knowing everything you do now...
If you were getting married now (for the first time, same guy, etc.) would you have done anything differently about your wedding/engagement? Did you have any bee-bee moments or stress to much about anything. Hate your dress now? Axe some bridesmaids? Elope? WAKE UP LADIES.
Me? Do you really have to ask? I would have ran for the hills long, long ago.
Re: Knowing everything you do now...
Got a pic of the $$$$ dress?
My wedding was awesome and fun, but now I don't see the point. I was so obsessed with having the wedding. Now I DGAF. I would have taken the $$ and had a kick-ass vacation or something. Or had a DW.
Now I think weddings are kinda dumb and a waste of $$.
For the most part everything was really great. Mostly it's just that my tastes have changed a bit since then.
My dress: I loved it at the time but now I would probably go for something more vintage inspired.
Bridesmaids: I'd probably just tell them to go pick out a black dress.
Veil: I planned to take it off but never did. I wasted a lot of money on pretty hair that no one saw. There are also a bunch of pictures where my photographer fluffed my veil into an 80s looking mess. Gee thanks.
I totally know what you mean. Do you think that maybe part of why we feel that way because we've already had one?
I had an epic beebee meltdown after our rehearsal dinner. DH's voicemail bore the brunt of it. Knowing what I know now, I would have taken steps to prevent that.
I also would have invited fewer people from the office and used those spaces for certain other people instead.
Loved our wedding. Had a blast. Spent what I thought was reasonable. For us it was important to celebrate the way we did. We deserved it damn it and it was an occassion worth celebrating.
In a perfect dream world though I would have a DW. And fly everyone out there.
Now on the random details: I still love my dress but looking back I would have gotten something less fluffy and more form fitting. My hair would have been different. I would have lost 30 lbs sooner. hahahaha.
The bridesmaids would have had their own black dresses and called it a day.
I would have spent a lot less money and time by cutting out the BS stuff that no one cared about but me (hello FAN PROGRAMS?! Limo, etc.)
I wouldn't have waited until 3 weeks before my wedding to lose weight. I'm surprised I didn't pass out from dehydration on my wedding day.
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I would have cut the bridesmaid who dropped out two days before the wedding. She couldn't get over the fact that Kirk and I lived together for the 8 months we were engaged.
She felt that Jesus was telling her not to condone our wedding, so she didn't want to show up to the ceremony.
Yet, her sister was visibly pregnant at her wedding, and my friend was the maid of honor.
I kinda wish we would have taken up my mother's offer of geting X amount towards eloping. That way wouldn't have had to deal with stupid family drama. If we didn't have the drama I think it would have been perfect for us. It also would have been nice if money wasn't so tight at the time.
I wouldn't have worried so much about what our families thought and done it more "our style." I really wanted a backyard-type wedding with mexican food and margaritas (our fave), but some people in our family thought that seemed PWT. Oh well.
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I would have had the wedding I wanted instead of being convinced that a Vegas wedding was the way to go. Cheesy chapel at Treasure Island and reception at Planet Hollywood in Caesars Palace is so the opposite of my aesthetic.
Oh and I wouldn't have married an immature adulterer.
Was that an overshare?
::sigh::
I still dream about this dress. sniff.
YES, and YES!
The #1 thing I wished to have changed was my photographer. Up to now, I am very disappointed with the pictures!!
Other things I wished I could have changed
the guest list - it should have been smaller
chosen different bridesmaids & MOH
dress...now that I see so many nicer ones, but at the time, I really liked mine. Actually, maybe I wouldn't have changed it, but I would change the veil for sure
bridesmaid's bouquets
See yours sounds like the kind of Vegas wedding I would have loved! I was 22 and stupid though. What the heck did I know?
I kind of felt like it all worked out. We prioritized - photography first! We spent far less on my dress, DIY invites, flowers, etc. In short, we loved our photog and would never make it to the Knot magazine because our details were not amazing.
I'm happy with where we ended up. Our site was beautiful, and my main priority was good food and an open bar. I say the less you care about the details, the better. No one else notices.
I loved our wedding and wouldn't want it to be different. We had the people there we wanted, stayed in budget and we just had a really amazing time!
I was waffling between 2 photographers and I think in hindsight I should have picked the other guy, but our pictures are still great, so no harm, no foul. Oh, and my BSC wedding planner was narcissism personified, but she also kept all of the vendors running smoothly, so it all worked out.
Don't feel bad. I got married to my first husband at 21. It was a disaster. This was my second try and much much better in my late 20's.