October 2009 Weddings
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Why is it always about babies?! (vent)
Ok - so since hubby and I got hitched the question of the day seems to always be "so when are you having kids?". Hubby and I want a family but for pete's sake people, give us a little time to be married before we add kiddos to the mix. We've got some stuff we want to do just us first! Hubby's grandma has a whole wardrobe of knit stuff put aside for us already and today I was talking to our office manager about changing my bus pass over to a parking ramp pass because I've been getting really motion sick on the bus. She just laughed and said that I must be preggers. Ummm, no actually I'm not - just get motion sick and have had that problem since I was a kid thanks. My own sister is on wine watch and if I don't have a glass with dinner, she's all over me about how hubby and I must be trying and absolutely won't believe us when we say that we're not. Why is everyone so baby obsessed except for us?!?
Re: Why is it always about babies?! (vent)
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I feel exactly the same way. DH and I *eventually* want kids, but definitely not any time soon. We're more on the 6-7 year plan than anything. That's the only reason I'm glad we're going to be with DH's (much smaller) family rather than mine this year. We can avoid awkward questions such as that.
I've been avoiding my local board, too. Whenever I go over there, it seems like 2/3 of the posts are about babies.
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No clue why people assume that just becasue you are married that you are going to pop out a kid in the next 9 months. Granted we already have a lil one, but everyone is now asking when #2 is coming. I keep telling them that we at least want this one out of diapers then we will try for #2.
I am with you there! I have 2 children already. I had to go through MANY years of fertiltiy tx to have them. I am his first marriage and he is the last "male" in the bloodline......so of course his family keeps questioning us about it! It takes a lot of #$$$$$$ for me to get pg and if I hear one more person say well just don't try and it will happen I am going to shoot them! I am not a spring chicken and we are happy with our family the way it is so LAY OFF! ***aaahhhhh that felt better lol****
I agree with you. The only persons business it is when you want to have children is yours and you DH's.
Agreed. Someone asked us AT the wedding. WTF?
We're on the fence about ever having kids... we love our childless life right now (no offense to those with babies, or those trying... just not sure if that's for us). If anything, we might adopt far down the road...
I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who was questioned AT THE WEDDING! We did a photo signature mat and several people wrote things about us having kids on there! I'm preparing myself for the inevitable questions this coming holiday. Don't people realize what a personal matter it actually is?!
Yeah - DH's grandma asked us over Thanksgiving and I laughed and said not anytime soon. She gave me this terrible look and said, well I'm not getting any younger. It's like look lady, you're not even 70 and you play golf on a regular basis - if I was worried about my grandma seeing her grandbabies, I'd worry about my 82 year old grandma.
Besides, in my family, it's not necessarily normal for the great grandparents to be around, but in his, great's are normal. I'm just not in a rush - give me a couple of years at least.
I think it's crazy that it's so common! I was actually starting to wonder why we hadn't gotten asked (after hearing stories on here) but then it came up 3 times in the past week!
DH's response when his dad asked was "I don't think so." Umm... not the right answer! The answer is NO until I tell you it's no! And even then, it'll be 3 months of NO until we tell people. Sorry, vent over.
I totally agree with you on this one! The DAY I went back to work after the honeymoon, the first questions were about when the babies are coming. We'd been married a week!!! I think people are rushing the process.
My friend jokes with me but every time I'm sick or something...she says "Is there something you want to tell me?" It's been two months, we just bought a house, and I'm in grad school. Let's give it a little bit more time people!!!