confession

hmonkey

dh and i got into a stupid fight this past weekend.  when we have kids, he doesn't want to tell anyone until 2nd tri.  i, of course, want to tell you hoochies asap, and everyone else can wait.  dh no le gusta.

zsazsa-stl

So is this an announcement without really violating your husbands trust and annoucing it to us hoochies?????

hmonkey

my family does not give gifts for christmas or for birthdays.  this year, dh's entire family, with the single exception of sil, has requested gift cards.  so basically, we are just passing money around.  dh and his brothers have said that this year will be the last year for giving gifts, with the exception of any children.  i am thrilled.

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But, but, we're imaginary. It's not like you'd be telling real people.

hmonkey

zsazsa-stl:

So is this an announcement without really violating your husbands trust and annoucing it to us hoochies?????

no.  my junk drawer is empty, except for the extra keys to my bike lock.

imoan

I can understand waiting to tell IRL people til 2nd tri... but you need to have SOMEONE you can tell right away.  If something does go wrong ::knock on wood::. you'll want someone that knew about it originally to get support.  He's being ridiculous.  Tell us anyway.  He'll never know!

**Stinky!**

He clearly doesn't realize how we operate. It's okay - you can tell us. He'll never know.

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hmonkey:

my family does not give gifts for christmas or for birthdays.  this year, dh's entire family, with the single exception of sil, has requested gift cards.  so bascially, we are just passing money around.  dh and his brothers have said that this year will be the last year for giving gifts, with the exception of any children.  i am thrilled.

I'm still dreaming of the day when that will happen. 

TheDuckis

I wouldn't even contemplate discussing that with H. Why would he care if imaginary internet friends knew?

LnR70707

F that, you guys might know before my own mother (only because I know when/how I want to tell her).  H's family won't know until the 2nd tri.

Wifezzilla

well, when the time comes you really don't have to tell. you can either post a mad lib or riddle and everyone can figure it out for themselves. EVERYONE WINS.

Wifezzilla

andplusalso, this was a waste of a fight. you're telling us regardless, so whatever Mr. Monkey. you keep thinking you have a fighting chance.

hmonkey

he is a wonderful and sweet man, but really.  i'd write a letter to my tv friends, too.

"dear producers of 'i didn't know i was pregnant', steve ward, tina fey, and *** wolf ... "

Wifezzilla

I may not tell until a baby actually shoots itself from my body, but we'll cross that IDKIWP Amusement Park Bathroom bridge when we get to it.

Wifezzilla

Scott wolf?

hmonkey

deeke wolf, creator of the "law & order" franchise

MinM

H and I have already covered this. Anytime there has been any situation where I have had to POAS, we look at the stick together...if it ever were to show up positive - you guys are the next to know. IRL people, including family, get to know at 2nd tri. Of course we agree to this, and he'll probably be calling his brother right away to gossip about it like a 12 year old girl.

Work people will know at the lastest possible time...maybe I'll never tell them. Just say I am getting fat.

Also, what happens in Mexico, stays in Mexico. Mr. Monkey doesn't have to know you told us. It'll stay nice and secret in here.

hmonkey

i hate grad school right now.  the advisor is a total joke and i want to punch him in the face and the junk, alternating back and forth until i get a nice rhythm going.

on the other hand, i dread its end.  why?  1) i really, really like my classmates and will miss the opportunities to just hang out with so many of them.  2) i fear i will become really uninteresting. 

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I'm for realz hosting Christmas Day dinner for my family. H wants to move the celebration to my parents house (I'll still cook) so MIL won't come.

H doesn't mind if I tell my parents about the baby now, but he'd prefer to wait until the baby is 5 before he tells his family.

hmonkey

for entirely selfish reasons, i want you guys to tell mil about the baby someplace where there is a webcam.  how does old faithful work for you guys?

http://www.nps.gov/archive/yell/OldFaithfulcam.htm 

MinM

I had mixed feelings about the end of graduate school. On one hand, I wanted it to be over and working and making money. On the other, it meant all of my friends moving away and everything would change. I can sympathize.

**O-Face**

PMB-why such a big secret?

Also, I don't plan on telling MIL until child turns 1 that I am pregnant.

MinM

My MIL loves kids and will take them away from me (to church). This suits me just fine. My mom would hound me very second of my pregnancy about something or other...especially if I am taking any sort of medication. Also, she wants a grand-daughter. I have yet to tell her, I would prefer a son (not that preference matters).

zsazsa-stl

Hmo, you need a code word.  When you get a BFP, just post "palamino" and we'll all know what you mean.

PMB, I'm afraid of what will happen when your MIL finds out.  Will she be breaking into the house to steal the baby before or after it is born?

TheDuckis

My mom has said, more than once, that we can stay in California but her grandchildren are living on the east coast. DH and I have agreed to add one year to our planned stay out here for every time she says it.

arbolita

MinM:

Also, she wants a grand-daughter. I have yet to tell her, I would prefer a son (not that preference matters).

We're going through this with my MIL also.  She had 3 sons and currently has 3 grandsons, so ever since we got engaged she brings up wanting a granddaughter.

I go back and forth between when we'll tell people. My e-friends will probably find out way early, just because I'll need to share the excitement with someone.  And I'd want to tell my mom early on because we're really close, but she can't keep a secret, and her entire family would know within a week. And if I tell my mom, H will want to tell MIL, and she can't keep her mouth shut either. Boo.

Cant_wait!

considering my MIL snuck into the delivery room of my nephew...she's not knowing when we have children. She can meet my toddlers. Maybe.

I'm pretty sure everyone else will know pretty quickly. I'm not so great with keeping exciting news to myself.

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hmonkey:

for entirely selfish reasons, i want you guys to tell mil about the baby someplace where there is a webcam.  how does old faithful work for you guys?

http://www.nps.gov/archive/yell/OldFaithfulcam.htm 

Sure, then dozens of viewers can watch as she throws herself into Old Faithful upon hearing the news.  Hmmm, might not be a bad idea. 

<-----boards bus to hell.

PMeg819

I am so very glad that MIL lives in another state and cannot annoy me with her stupid, and that my mom is still in shock so she hasn't started caring.

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zsazsa-stl:

Hmo, you need a code word.  When you get a BFP, just post "palamino" and we'll all know what you mean.

PMB, I'm afraid of what will happen when your MIL finds out.  Will she be breaking into the house to steal the baby before or after it is born?

 Probably. Even though she'll be devastated by the news she won't be able to help herself and will find every way possible to interfere. Of course, SIL will seethe with jealousy because she already believes MIL loves H and nephew waymorebetter than anyone else.

Butter Cookie

I'll tell Candi immediately, and you people shortly after. I may tell TT too, because I have her cell #