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The Five Love Languages!
(Sorry for the novel!)
Ladies, for those of you who haven't read it - read it!!! It's so eye opening and I think makes a major change in your relationship. I just finished reading it about a week ago (it only took a couple of days, really easy read) and my DH is attempting to read it now (on the toilet lol) but we have discussed it a lot so he already gets the gist of it.
For those of you that don't know what it's about, its about how everyone speaks one or two of the five love languages - Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gift Giving, Acts of Service, Physical Touch. Each of us has one or maybe two love languages that speak to us greatly. You and your spouse may have different love languages, which can lead to a lot of arguing and misunderstandings, sometimes even divorce.
I think all of the languages mean something to us on some level, but mostly one or two languages make us feel the most loved and meant the most to us.
For example, mine are Quality Time and Physical Touch. Those are what mean the most to me. My DH is ALWAYS working (Sometimes I don't even see him at all for a day or two - and we live together) and he is so not a touchy touchy person. I think my DH's are Words of Affirmation (encouraging words mostly) and Gift Giving, and I am naturally critical and I really do not value gifts much at all for myself.
Now that we know what each others are and how important they are to us, it's already making a difference. He is making a point to spend more time with me (talking more about his day, instead of watching TV, going out to walk the dog together, go on little dates, etc.) and I am doing my best at being more encouraging with my words. I wrote him an encouraging note and left it inside his laptop, and he hung it up on a bulletin board in his work area. He has mentioned that note more than once, I know it meant a lot to him.
Anyway, I was advised to read it before we got married, but honestly, since we didn't live together, I think it holds more value after we got married and now can relate to the issues they mention.
This is just a small insight into the book, but I just think it's so awesome that I had to share. A couple of family members have also read it and the impact has been huge for them as well.
Just had to share! For those of you that have read it, share your experience! 
Re: The Five Love Languages!
No problem!
After I read Jackie's vent, I immediately thought of the book and the fact that her love language may be Acts of Service. If it is, thats something that is a huge deal if you are the one that has to do the chores by yourself and your spouse doesn't help you out. But, if you discuss that with your spouse and you both understand the love languages, she will do his love language and he will do hers, and they will both be happy
If their love language is the same, they will split the chores up more!
It's just an awesome book!
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