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holiday confession
I am honestly considering faking a stomach bug to get out of Xmas with the ILs. Problem is I'd have to lie to DH, too. I just don't think I can smile and nod and generally not say what I'm thinking for however many hours that day.
Any thoughts on how I can actually pull this off?
Bonus points if you can also get me out of drinks with DH's college friends tonight.
Re: holiday confession
what the scenario? like, how far are the ILs, how long is the holiday experience going to last, why don't you want to be with them, etc etc. whatever info may be important.
i can't really help you without knowing a lot of extras. the best part of the holidays for me is visiting the ILs. it's *my* family that i need to take a roofie to get through.
you can get out of drinks tonight by saying you don't want to interpret their bromance.
as for the ils, you may need to pinch the little ds and get them crying, and then you just have to -- HAVE TO -- leave.
WZ, did you see the dramz I posted on FB a few weeks ago? It's mostly that.
Also I've just overdosed on them. We used to see them once/month. I've probably seen them 2-3 times/week for the last month.
And now I'm absolutely the lone man out. I'll be sitting there, wishing for booze (they don't drink, and neither does anyone else when we're there), watching them wish I wasn't there. I'll have to pretend I'm happy about whatever they give the kids (which they've already told me is GIANT TOYS that the kids won't care about but will further clutter my living room). The food will suck, too.
I'm just generally tired and grumpy and feel disgusting and am afraid I won't be able to fake otherwise like a good DIL and wife.
you need to discuss all these things with dh, and possibly take two cars/call a cab.
i'm sorry, my time on FB is limited and i rarely get to see much posted over there these days.
you could always have one of us text you or call you, and then you would just have no choice but to leave the party to run home because your neighbor left the gas on before they left for their flight to hawaii, and you just have no choice but to leave and go turn it off for them.
I do think I could pull off the 2 cars idea. It's a 40 minute drive, and DH is bad about leaving. I often have to drag him to the car, as though Dex's exhausted screaming were not cue enough that it is time to leave.
I may also have to sneak in a flask or something. WTF. I've often resented them for taking the drinking joy from my holidays.
bring enough flasks to carry enough liquor to spike everyone's drinks. i'm all about drugging people to make them more tolerable.
why can't you tell DH you're tired of the ILs? it sounds very annoying to have to deal with them several times a week.
I bumped the dramz on FB for you, WZ.
And I will have to keep the text thing as a backup.
Although I've got to say I'm still hoping against hope for a "stay home alone" option.
D, i have no idea when i'll get on FB next. i figured out how to access it through the TV, but i can only update my status. the home computer is very low on my list of priorities lately.
but thanks!!
Can you tell the husband that you're feeling overwhelmed in general? Don't point out the ILs specifically. Tell him you're tired and overwhelmed and still not feeling up to par. Ask for a specific time you are leaving and stick to it.
While there, invent time to be alone with the kids- change diapers, calm them even when they don't need either. Take that time to vent, seethe, and take deep breaths (or shots). Then put on a happy face and head back out for the next round.
As for the gifts. Remember that they are gifts. You can shove them away when you get home, but smile when you get them.
omg! D, look at my C-section incision! Does it look infected to you? It hurts so bad! I don't think I can do buddy night or your family christmas! I'm so sorry. Too bad my body got so effed up while birthing YOUR children! I'm so disappointed I'm going to miss these events.
Problem solved