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Vent vent vent... (sorry so long)
I just have to vent!!! DH is frustrating me soooooooooooo bad!
The past weekend we left Linda (my dog) with my mom and dad while we went to Disney on my bday. Not sure what they fed her but when we picked her up she didnt look right, i knew right off the bat she wasnt feeling well. Last night i gave her bath and she was passing gas like crazy...so i knew she had a tummy ache, she went straight to her bed and went to sleep. I told DH, something is wrong with Linda because she is not acting like herself.... well its like he didnt even care. Granted, she's my dog, i had her since i was 17, since she was a puppy now she is going on 13 years. So yes, she is my baby and like a step daughter to him (lol) DH is not really an animal person but deals with it. Anyway...DH is on vacation from work, he's on "use or lose" paid time off right now, aint that nice huh? He is forced to go on vacation lol needless to say he has NOTHING to do... he woke up at 1pm today, which is fine... i wouldve too if i were on vacation. However seems like Linda left him a gift in the guestroom... like i said she is not feeling well!! Poor linda has the runs 
DH GOT FURIOUS!!!!! calls me at work yelling that he does not want to clean her mess, to come home and clean it because he does not want it to stain and blah blah blah... wtf?!? I AM AT WORK!!! First, DH is seriously domestically challanged!!! so i tell him calmly... whatever you do just dont yell at Linda because she is not feeling welll... so i start walking him through on what to do to clean the mess, he gets frustrated because he doesnt know what to get or do first... and starts telling me again to just come home and clean it because he is not good at this stuff... ( mind you i live in kendall and work in boca) yea im going to tell my boss " Boss, i have to leave early because my dog pooped on the floor and my husband doesnt want to clean it" like for real??? OMG my blood starts boiling. DH doesnt cook... doesnt clean much.. doesnt do laundry... doesnt fix stuff around the house because he either doesnt like to or just doesnt know how. (his parents did everything for him growing up) SO that means i get very LITTLE help around the house... Lately he has been saying he wants to start TTC... honestly im scared... i love DH with all my heart and would love to start a family with him but when things like this happen, i think... whats going to happen when we have kids?? is he not going to help either? everytime he's with the baby and he feels he cant handle it he's just going to demand that I come home? When I bring this up, he says he will change and that a baby is different... obviously it is but is he going to start helping a bit? why wait until we have a kid... start helping now!!!!!
DH GOT FURIOUS!!!!! calls me at work yelling that he does not want to clean her mess, to come home and clean it because he does not want it to stain and blah blah blah... wtf?!? I AM AT WORK!!! First, DH is seriously domestically challanged!!! so i tell him calmly... whatever you do just dont yell at Linda because she is not feeling welll... so i start walking him through on what to do to clean the mess, he gets frustrated because he doesnt know what to get or do first... and starts telling me again to just come home and clean it because he is not good at this stuff... ( mind you i live in kendall and work in boca) yea im going to tell my boss " Boss, i have to leave early because my dog pooped on the floor and my husband doesnt want to clean it" like for real??? OMG my blood starts boiling. DH doesnt cook... doesnt clean much.. doesnt do laundry... doesnt fix stuff around the house because he either doesnt like to or just doesnt know how. (his parents did everything for him growing up) SO that means i get very LITTLE help around the house... Lately he has been saying he wants to start TTC... honestly im scared... i love DH with all my heart and would love to start a family with him but when things like this happen, i think... whats going to happen when we have kids?? is he not going to help either? everytime he's with the baby and he feels he cant handle it he's just going to demand that I come home? When I bring this up, he says he will change and that a baby is different... obviously it is but is he going to start helping a bit? why wait until we have a kid... start helping now!!!!!I got so mad i just hung up... im assuming he is cleaning it....
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Re: Vent vent vent... (sorry so long)
Ugh that whole thing is so frustrating. I hate when DH plays helpless, it's SO frustrating. Really? You don't know how to clean up pee? You spray disinfectant and wipe!! Ugh. Anyway, I can only imagine how frustrated you are. Just try to relax and talk to him seriously. If you are frustrated with his lack of help around the house, talk to him about it. And, if I were you, I wouldn't feed in to his helplessness in situations like this. I think you handled it the right way. He is a big boy and he will figure it out!
Oh and I can understand how you feel about the kids. My dad didn't change diapers, feed the babies, etc. He wasn't a hands-on Dad with the parenting, nor around the house. He has since changed, since my mom went crazy later on in life and told him to get his act together and help her out. I would definitely talk to him seriously about your expectations with how he will help you out with kids. That's important!
Good luck, try to relax and enjoy the holiday!
thx ladies...
here's the F/U
when I was driving home he called and apologized... and went to go buy my nephews x-mas gifts which was on his "honey to do list" when i got home the place smelled SOOOOOOOOO bad! ughhh Linda was in her cage (we put her in one when no one is home), the mess looked like it was cleaned up but the stentch was still lingering. I took linda out of her cage, DH came home, and I started to try to get the smell out of the house then started gift wrapping... Linda went back to the guestroom and left me a surprise.... O.M.G now i see why DH was so PO... wtf did she eat!!!!!!!!!!!!!????? DH was like, "you see?" I really felt bad, and from what he told me what she left him was double the mess, so I can imagine! This time i cleaned it...
DH was forgiven this time... lol
Hugs my dear. All I can say is communicate. SOmetimes my DH does not offer help because he thinks 'i got it' but after we had a conversation and I explained that I needed more help he has pitched in right away. Dont get me wrong every so often I have to give him a nice little push but he has really come around. Also, his mother was a SAHM that did EVERYTHING for him so he was always used to the wife/lady of the house doing everything and is now learning how to clean ect.
Just talk to him and get him involved whn you are doing things so that he can see how its done when you are not around the house.
Hope Linda's tummy ache gets better!! WTH did your parents feed her???
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DH's mom was also a SAHM, and she STILL babys him... its so annoying. But yea we are working on it, slowly... but i have faith that he will eventually get use to pitching in. Last night before I went to bed i had to clean the floor again because i just kept on smelling poo around the house and he actually asked to help... it was sweet because i know he tries, just sometimes he forgets... a lot of the times!
I asked my mom wth they fed her and she confessed that Linda wandered off at one point and didnt come until hours later. She didnt tell me this before because she knows that upsets me. But apparently when she came back she had a bone in her mouth so most likely she found food somewhere thrown out or something. Linda is not allowed to eat people food... she ONLY eats dry dog food, so yea any hint of people food upsets her tummy. God knows what she ate. DH called a bit ago and said she seems to be feeling better, so thats good.
Thanks ladies for hearing me out