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QOTD - because it's kinda of TTC related, or at least I think it's something we all think about.....who do you look more like? Your bio mom or bio dad? And if you have kids who do they tend to resemble?
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I need my kids to grow ears. Evidently, they are deaf. They also think they are funny. They have picked up saying "dum-dum" and when we say we don't say that in our house, they have morphed it to "gum gum" and then roll on the floor laughing. I have signed up for a Parenting class on how to stop yelling. I think I am yelling/threatening too much and I don't like it - but can't figure out how to get them what I need them to do without asking 1001x. You'd think I'd be able to figure this out with an undergrad degree in developmental psych and a grad degree in social work. It is different when it is your kid.
Growing up, people said I looked like my dad. L says I look more like my mom. I don't think I look like either. Carter looks like me as a child (more than the donor's picture at his age) and Grayson looks eerily like my mom (and nothing like the donor picture.) Gray and Leanne have the exact same hair color (ashy blond.) But when L has them, someone always tries to figure out which one looks like her - people vary on which one they think looks like her - but Grayson acts JUST like her.
100 more days until my EDD!! Tomorrow will be double digits :-) I know it's a silly marker of time but it makes me :-). At the same time it's a bit freaky. K and I have so much to do and buy to prep for the baby. And I have an entire event to plan and organize for work by the time I leave. I think the work stuff worries me more sometimes. I hate giving up control of my event to someone else but I know my coworker will do a great job as long as we can get everything pulled together before I go.
QOTD - I've always been told I'm built like my dad's side - smaller frame. And until the last 5 years I think I looked more like my dad. Now I see my mom. Except my light eyes come from my dad.
I wonder often what our baby will look like. I probably wouldn't wonder as much if s/he wasn't biracial. I just have no clue if my genes will show up at all and which aspects for the donor's genes will show up. It's exciting but sometimes the unknown part gets to me.
today is sprout's first day of preschool and we havent gotten a call yet, so it must be going well
i'm excited for him, and nervous for me. Rosebud is napping on me as i type. she's such an easy baby, i hope that never changes. I'm trying to get them a pedi but its tough to find someone who has openings and will take state insurance and isnt too far away. boo. I also sucked it up and called WIC this morning. As foster children they qualify regardless of our income and i just need to get over my stupid issues and take whatever help they are entitled to. I have such mixed feelings on it.
We've also noticed some jealousy issues crop up with sprout lately and I need to nip in the bud. as he gets more and more attached to me, the less he wants A around. i now its natural for him to cling tightly to his primary caregiver given his losses, but we need to work on demonstrating that we are both there for him.
QOTD: i look like a pretty good blend of my parents but if i had to choose, its more like my dad. and our kids look absolutely nothing like us, lol.
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Oh the lovely 3s! You sound just like my friend who has 3 year old twins! They are about 6 months older and I think are coming out of it though. There is hope I swear! Soo funny about being about it being harder with your own kid, My big fear is the teen years. I think I would be able to handle one being an 8th grade teacher but I know I will be totally messing up with my own kid!
Update on us...well I have only 12 more days until I return to work (boooooooo) and I am totally not ready on any level! Emotionally I am in denial and so I am not really doing the prep work I need to do. Oh well prehaps after the holidays. I am so excited about Ella's first christmas and even though she totally won't get it I am planning on doing all the cheesy santa things with her (leaving cookies out ect) Ella is doing pretty well and is holding herself up in tummy time better and better every day. She has also started to reach and hold things more which is good.
As for who I look like. I was always told I look like my paternal grandmother which I think is true. I have her hands and hair. My grandfather who had alziemers before he died used to speak french (they were from Canada and spoke french at home until the kids went to school) to me since he thought I was her which was really creepy and also would make him mad since I don't speak french. But I also think that I look like my mom. As for Ella I think she looks like me but I also think that she looks like the donor too. She has my nose but not my mouth and her eyes are my shape but I have very brown eyes and she has very blue ones. She also has tiny feet like me! She is now just fitting into newborn shoes (the 0-3 roobez still have an inch to grow into!) I think she will have curly hair like me but the donor had curly hair so who knows where she gets that from but she is really bald still.
This is an ongoing issue in our house. I think that in addition to attachment issues, it is the age. If L is around, they want her (and only her) to buckle their seatbelt, take them to the potty, brush their teeth, etc. It is frustrating for all of us. L doesn't want (or need) to do everything and I would like to be able to help. However, if L isn't around, I am evidently perfectly capable of doing these things and the kids happily go along with me.
I know what you mean. Ella qualifies for SSI (disability) from the fedral goverment due to her birth weight and it felt so strange filling out the paper work. I think she also will qualify for wic too and as strange as it sounds I think we will apply if I stop breastfeeding and switch to formula as it is so expensive and with S not working money is tight. I would say you could use the money that you would have used on food to do educational activities with the kids to enrich their lives and help with development. Perhaps there is a special class that sprout would benifit from that would really help him and you wouldn't be able to afford without using the wic money for food.
this is exactly the reasoning that pushed me over the edge to make the call. I feel bad using a service we dont technically "need", but if it means more opportunity and enrichment for these children, to whom i owe my primary responsiblity, then I"ll do it. thanks for letting me know i'm not alone
and yes, i had no idea how expensive formula was or how much you go through until this week. my teeny tiny girl has polished off almost 4 cans!
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exactly! if i'm not available, sprout is perfectly happy with A, but the minute i get home its "i dont like you" and "I only want mommy E" ::sigh:: i feel so bad for A but she's handling it like a trooper.
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2brides-LMC also has a hearing issue. Her new thing is to say nuh-uh to everything, for no reason. Just nuh-uh all day long. It's like she is protesting the universe. Good times :-)
CT-I understand. Both girls can have WIC but I refused at first. We discovered formula is almost $200 a month and decided we would much rather use that money on other things for her. (We still refuse it for LMC) S finally wore me down, she has had a few bad experiences using it but mostly nobody cares. With this economy lots of people need the extra help and lots of kids are in care.
QOTD: Believe it or not, PBS looks a lot like my brother and I when we were babies and LMC looks like my mom a tiny bit.
Well, we are now down to the single digit weeks, which is crazy. She is very active still and makes my belly go in all kinds of weird shapes.
On a not so pleasant note, I've started having the worst, er... crotch pain. Its horrible, feels like I've been kicked in the crotch, and is worst when I'm trying to do something with one foot... put on socks, slip on or off my boots, etc. I have to sit down even to put on pants now, which is a tad annoying. But as long as she's good, I can deal.
QOTD - I think I have definite elements of both of my parents, but maybe a bit more of my mom. My brother and I though, we look SO much alike. Even I have trouble telling our baby pictures apart sometimes... and people joke that I know exactly what I would look like as a guy, and he knows exactly what he would look like as a girl.
I'm excited to see who Gwen will turn out looking like. I really hope she gets Trav's blue eyes, but my eye shape... and I'd love for her to get some of his height!
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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I love this! She's a little activist already.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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That seems like a great idea! And forgive me if this is totally wrong since I know very little about the foster system, but maybe signing the kids up now will be a good thing when/if reunification happens. I mean you're getting them something they are entitled to that maybe the bio parents wouldn't put the energy into doing. kwim? It's about giving Sprout and Rosebud the best possible resources now and in the future.
my brother and i are the exact same way
except for the fact that i'm, uh, fluffier? - people ask us if we are twins.
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We get this too sometimes... which he loves since he is 7 years younger then me.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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Have I been living under a rock? Did you make a baby name announcement? Gwen? So cute!
Lol, no announcement... but we knew our boy name and our girl name from the start, so when we found out, I just started calling her by name right away.
Her name will be Gwenivere Mae.
Gwen or Gweni for short.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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Update: Still not sure when we're going to start ttc again. We're going to do 2 cycles at home and then move to an RE. If we start in Feb, March or April, and don't get pg in two, we'll break again until late summer. We're now planning an anniversary/graduation trip to Europe in late June/early July, so I'd like to either be in my second tri or waiting until we get back to try at the RE.
AOTD: I look more my mom in terms of body type and hair color. I have a combination of my parents eye color (green-blue).
I'm assuming based on dominant gene patterns that our children will look more Asian than white, and therefore perhaps more like C than me even though they won't be biologically related.
Two*True - I don't think I knew that your baby is biracial. I'm doing my research project on mixed-race LGBTQ families.
That would be us! K is Portuguese so we picked a donor that is mostly Portuguese. He has few other races mixed in, none of which are white. Our donor's baby picture makes us think he is darker than most of K's family in terms of skin tone. I'm so curious to see if any of my genes have a chance of dominating over the donors. In a world where we could mix and match traits we'd pick the donors skin color with my light eyes - lol!
We live in an area with a good number of Asian-Caucasian families and I love seeing all the hapa kids.
I always picture our future babies with Asian eyes and light brown hair. More likely than not, they'll have darker/black hair, but since I was very light blonde when I was little, there's a chance.i can get to the board again! hooray!!!
um...i'm back at work part time starting yesterday, and omg it's been hard to leave the house in the morning. i'm just working two days this week, then two half days and one full day next week, and then gradually increasing until the beginning of february.
he's grown out of newborn diapers, which was a little sad for me actually, although he's long and skinny so he really only grew out of them on length and the size ones are a bit bulky for him yet. we're using g diapers with cloth inserts during the day and disposables at night, which seems to be going well so far. he's still in newborn clothes, but the legs and arms are starting to get a little short so i think we're going to need to transition to 0-3 month clothes soon.
qotd: i think i look like my mom, but i don't really have a lot to go on. i haven't seen or heard from my bio father in at least 10 years, and before that it was sporadic at best. really, though, i look like pictures i've seen of my mom's sister when she was younger. my mom and wife say that if they didn't know better they'd swear i was my dad's (stepfather), between our manerisms and sense of humor and how we deal with things, emotionally and otherwise. i think monkey definitely looks like my wife, though my mom says his development and the way he reacts to things are just like me when i was an infant.
folks, I have ZERO issue with the WIC. I figure we're overtaxed anyway (eg, the extra $75/mo I spend on C's health insurance due to DOMA) and wouldn't turn down money I rightfully qualify for. That's very different from working the system
I think I look more like my dad, but I have my mom's tree stump legs.
We're pretty sure we were pregnant, and now we're not, although we were never able to confirm. But my body went through something significant this last week, including adding more than a cup size to my bust and sleeping all the time, and my period was a couple days late. So we have our suspicions about what happened, and are just trying to focus on the next cycle. Although that will be complicated, since we're supposed to be on vacation in Canada when I ovulate. So we'll see.
I look a lot like my mom, until you put me next to my dad. I look a lot like my dad. Ren?e looks a lot like me. There are pictures of my mom and me around age 6 that look very similar to me and Ren?e when she was six. As she's gotten older she looks less like me, and I can see her dad's influence more. It will be interesting to see how the next one looks!
Today is CD 10, time to start testing for O but I'm not... Still no word from the donor so all hope is gone in my mind. I'm not sure where to go from here and am pretty sad.
DW and I momentarily discussed asking her cousin to donate so I may bring that up with her again, at least he is reliable. If DW or her cousin say no than we will wait until we find the right donor at the bank.
QOTD: I think I have my Moms body type but my Dads coloring. Alila (DD) looks more like her Dad.
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