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Should I be upset?
DH and I received our gifts this year from our families in CA and as usual we opened them immediately. My Mom sent us a huge box full of presents, $120 in Kohls cash, and a gift card for DH to the NFL Shop. My Dad tossed in a check for $200 for us to go buy something as well. My Grandparents mailed us a gift card for $100 to sears which I always give to DH so he can buy tools and stuff. My family is not rich by any means. They struggle for what they have and some even work 2 jobs. I am extremely appreciative for the gifts they give us and do my best to do the same.
DH's family sent him a gift card to Sears for $50 and his Mom made me a quilt (which I love). I don't ever care about receiving gifts from them, but I think they should try and give their son a good Christmas. Instead they give their 25 yr old daughter (who still lives at home and barely works) a miraculous Christmas. She gets a new digital camera almost every year or a new $400 bike that has only had 30 miles put on it since she got it. His family is very well off. His Dad drives a brand new $50k truck and they have money to spend when they want something.
Is it wrong of me to be a little upset about this?
I feel horrible because my family sends a crap load of gifts and his family sends barely anything.
Re: Should I be upset?
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I understand being bothered just because they are obviously favoring his sister over him. That makes me sad.
My mom and stepdad always go crazy with the Christmas gifts, but that's my mom being my mom. But she works really hard to keep it fair between my sister and I. She cares a LOT about that (way more than we do). I don't expect her to keep this up though. I mean, we are both all grown up (I'm 30, married, and have my first child. My sister is almost 28, and been living with her boyfriend for like 7 years now). But she is who she is, and I think it's cute. She also goes crazy for my husband and my sister's boyfriend too though.
Ray's parents are less like that. He usually gets one or two gifts from his parents, in the modest price range (except if his dad gets him a gun - which happens often - hehe). I usually get an ornament from his mom, but it's always so thoughtful - she buys me these beautiful Disney ornaments every year that I absolutely adore. And I know his mom does do more for his sister (twin), who lives out of state. But we are living a lot more comfortably than she does. And it has more to do with helping her out. And Ray is totally ok with that, and so am I. We are just fine, and don't really need anything.
It's just different philosophies on Christmas. And I don't think either of us look at it like one of us is luckier than the other. Ray is very close to both of his parents, and I'm close to mine. More or less Christmas presents don't matter at all.
But in the case of your husband, it seems like obvious favortism on his parents' part. And that is pretty sad to me. Was it like that for him when he lived at home? I could see them maybe doing a little more for her since she still lives at home (maybe they still see her as more of a kid?), but I don't think it's right for it to be that blatantly different.
The same thing happened when he lived at home. He bought his first car which was a total junker but his sister was handed an almost brand new camry.
We are just accepting it and moving on.
I took him out shopping and spent a little extra on him than normal to make myself feel a little better...lol
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Good for you! You have a good attitude about it. Not worth it, move on. And that's so nice of you to spoil your hubby at little more. You are a great wife