I have no fecking idea how to tell DH.

PMeg819

He's at work. I feel bad telling him over the phone, but at the same time I know it will crush me to see him in freakout mode over money and stuff. If I have him come home, I know it will be nicer to tell him face to face but I know he'll be upset/depressed/etc.

My mom called me earlier too. I couldn't tell her anything. I lied and said I was still working.

Valentyna

What do you mean by "have him come home"?  Are you going to wait for him to come home or call him to tell him to come home? 

TheDuckis

I'd probably call or email and just say, "Hey, I got fired. Can you come home?"

If you just ask him to come home without saying why he's going to freak out and worry. This way you let him know you're okay, but you're upset and you need to talk to him so you can figure out what your course of action should be. 

((hugs))

Valentyna

I vote with TD and that's where I was going with that.   DH would kill people on the way if I asked him to come home but didn't tell him why.  He'd be sick with worry. 

Anasara

I have no advice to give, but ((hugs)).  Srsly, that blows.

Valentyna

Honestly, you have the fortitude of a saint to have not called him already.  It's been well over an hour.  I'd have soaked DH's shirt through twice over by now. 

PMeg819

Val, I'm crying to a friend right now. She's been through a similar situation.

*Barbie*

You may want to wait for him to get home, if possible - I've been told over the phone both times, and it's difficult to try and drive when you're upset.

Valentyna

Will it hold you over until he gets home?  Maybe you can keep busy with the paperwork until then.  Details can distract you a little from the shock of it all.  Plus you could ease his worry a little that some immediate expenses won't suck up much of the reserve. 

Poor kiddo.  Let me know if you need anything.

*Barbie*

Also, I'd file for unemployment today, if you haven't already. The sooner you file, the sooner you start getting support. You'll be able to collect for this entire week.

 

GBCK

that part really sucks.

Do whatever stresses him least right now.

imoan

I know this is a shytty moment.  But you might be surprised by how your H reacts.  I know I was.  He is super frugal and stresses really easy over money.  I called him when I had just gotten out to my car in a parking lot at a local restaurant and got the voicemail telling me that I didn't have to return on Monday.  I called him and was expecting him to freak.  Instead, he told me that everything would be fine, we would make it work and to drive home safely.