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Question for Homeowners
C and I are going to view some townhouses this weekend - two of which we are super interested in (we went to an open house at one of them a while ago, and the other is in the same complex).
As first-time buyers, we've thought about having one of my parents take a look at whatever place we want to buy, just to have another set of eyes and another person to think of questions we may not. Now, I feel like I remember from when my parents' bought their current houses, that we went more than once to look at them...
Is this weekend probably our best chance if we want to bring one of them with us? Or will we likely have another opportunity?
Also, do you think it's pretty common for first-time buyers to bring a parent or similar person along?
Mrs._F
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sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Re: Question for Homeowners
Personally I would want to go alone before bringing parents. You said you saw it before but were you really asking questions? I think if you and C visit it again, ask questions, and still feel great about the house then you can always have your realtor set up a private showing later for you with your parents.
FWIW, buying my first home was a very personal thing. It wasn't something I wanted a lot of opinions on. I figured if there was an issue with the house that I didn't think to ask about I would find out about it at the home inspection. But that's me. Having extra eyes wouldn't hurt but you might want to see it one more time just the two of you before brining in outside opinions.
Have fun!
This is kind of what I was thinking - I know it's a good idea to have my parents see the place before we buy, but I also want time to take things in on our own, and not get distracted by their input/feelings.
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You can look at a place as many times as you want before you buy. Its not a bother for anyone, in fact, it will probably excite the sellers as it demonstrates your interest. I think we saw our house 3 times before putting in an offer.
and its VERY common for first time homebuyers to bring along parents. we saw this a lot during the bajillion open houses we went to.
We brought my parents and DW's dad to the last viewing of the house before putting in an offer. it was nice to have thier opinion, but the truth is that we had already made up our mind on the house....bringing the parents was more for thier benefit to feel involved and as if they were helping
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You'll want to have fun with C going through the rooms saying "This will be Henry's room" or "the crib could be here" without parents getting in on that. Not that parents can't have fun with that too but I think there is something to be said for having that experience just the two of you the first time out. Just be blissful about seeing and possibly buying a home. Then when you bring family you will get the extra dose of reality and the tough questions. :-)
I would check with your realtor to get their sense about how quickly you'd need to move on the townhouse if you decided you want to make an offer. Around here, places that are decently-priced aren't on the market long enough to go see them more than once (not sure how it is where you're looking, though, or how quickly you could get your parents out to see it).
I didn't, but I think it is pretty common for first-time buyers to bring someone along. And even if it weren't, I'd say feel free to. A home is a huge investment, and everyone should understand that you want extra input.
Congrats on the house hunting! I hope it goes well!
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Thanks - I was thinking this was the case. My parents don't live far from where we're looking, so even if it was last minute, it shouldn't be too hard to get them out there to take a look at it before we buy.
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It will also depend on the market where you are looking. When we looked at our house, it went on the market on a Friday, we saw it Sat afternoon, and by the time we put an offer on it Sat night, we were the third offer. I guess they liked our offer and letter since we got it - but we got to look at it 2x (saw it, went and looked at 2 other houses in the neighborhood, came back to 'our' house to look again, and went to write the contract.)
Neither of our families are in the area so having them come wasn't an option.
Good luck!
We put an offer in on our house right after the seeing it for the first time. Kinda crazy, but necessary in our market. Our folks aren't in the area, but we took lots of pics and sent them as soon as we got home from writing the offer. In our experience, I didn't really need my parent's help (dad's, really) until after the inspection report came back. Best of luck to you!
Thanks so much for your input everyone. It's so nice to have you all here to go to when I need some reassurance
The homes we are looking at have been on the market for a while, and with it being the dead of winter in New England, home sales are fairly slow, so I think we'll have at least a little bit of time before any sale is final - and with my parents being close by, it shouldn't be a problem to get them in on short notice.
C brought up the idea yesterday of one of my parents coming, and I'd just been going back and forth in my mind a bit about it. Your input is very helpful!
I'm going to go with my gut feeling - we'll go alone this weekend, and then when we move forward on a house, that's when we'll bring in the folks.
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