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Whatthehell.
Little Sis just called me. From her new phone. That my mom bought for her. Along with one for herself. She said it was "only $50."
I'm sorry, but this really pisses me off. She cries to me about how she can't afford any Xmas gifts or bday gifts or everyday things, but she can buy herself & my sister each new cell phones? And if she told my sis it was $50, that usually means it was at least $75.
This is why I hate talking to her about their problems. She's only partially changed her spending habits, and hasn't changed the way she lives. She still leaves lights, fans, TVs, etc. on throughout their house all damn day, she still buys an exorbitant amount of groceries, but "OMGZ! We're headed for the Poorhouse!"
I can't do this anymore.
Re: Whatthehell.
Your mother = my MIL.
When they thought the FIL was not going to find a job before his unemployment ran out, they still didn't change their habits. It was maddening. And DH and his siblings were talking about pitching in monetarily to help them out if it came down to it. I told DH I'm all for helping family but he was going to have to have a come-to-Jesus talk with his parents (especially mother) about necessary and unnecessary spending. I bet a family of 4 could live off their pantry for a month at any given time.
It's frustrating as hell.
The thing that really gets me is the fact that my dad is working a full-time construction job, which is 10hours/day, PLUS a part-time retail job (usually 12-18 hours/week). He has zero free time, zero time to relax, he's just focused on doing the best he can.
And then here's my mom (a former shopaholic) saying fuckeffort. GAH. Gahgahgah.
Your mom = SIL.
That sht infuriates me. You can't afford to buy clothes for your kids or have even a basic internet connection for your kids to use for schoolwork but you can have a Blackberry with an expensive voice/data/text plan? MKAY.
based on my own experiences, sometimes parents claim to have no money, but they really do. they may not be loaded and living the high life, but they have more than everyone thinks.
maybe they aren't being completely honest with you about their finances - it's possible that you don't really know what's going on with them. OR, maybe they are just irresponsible and need to get themselves out of their hole in their own time. as long as they aren't hitting you guys up for money, can you step away?
my mom cries poverty all the time to me. she does this so we can expect to always treat if we go out, and she recently got the idea in her head that sis and i make more money than she does and therefore we should supplement her income. it's a frustrating position to be in.
good luck. parents just don't understand how annoying they are..
They're in a pretty dire place right now. My mom's told me exactly how much money they make (much to my chagrin). She's always been the kind of person who has to *appear* to be living one kind of life, even though she can't necessarily afford it. She *is* being irresponsible and canceling out all the hard work my dad's doing to keep them afloat.
Yes, I can step away. But it's hard when I'm worried about them, you know? And I feel guilt about moving away from them and not being there if they need help because I know my POS brother won't step up and do anything.