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Poor Brother
He has been married to SIL for over 10 years now and he's just so tired. She is suffering from and has been diagnosed with Manic Depression. I'm sure there are more details clinically, but I know that is the jist of it.
Her mother suffered her whole life and eventually SIL's parents divorced about 3 years ago after 35+ years of marriage because her mother wouldn't get treatment. She would go through cycles, hit a bottom, be hospitalized, get out and pretend it never happened.
SIL won't acknowledge her disease or really seek active therapy for it. Instead, she blames all of her problems on brother, and demonizes him. He's a wonderful wonderful man. *tears* It's just so sad. I love him to pieces and I wish I could fix it. So does he.
Re: Poor Brother
Sad. :-(
My cousin went through something similar with his ExWife - she was bipolar and manic depressive. He divorced her whe she started trying to turn their kids against him - saying that he was abusing her and them. (She was trying to convince the kids that their dad was beating them.)
This woman is an elementary school teacher - how scary is that?
holy crap.
They have a 12 year old boy and 10 year old girl. They're old enough to know what's going on.
Ugh, it is sad. I've been there. My ex was told by more than one doctor he was bi-polar but refused to believe it, but would cry "what's wrong with me"? I had no clue the doctors were telling him he needed help until the marriage counselor we were seeing told me she'd been telling him for weeks but he wouldn't do anything about it.
It's funny, as soon as we started seeing her she told me to separate all our accounts and split our assets "just in case". She knew all along it was never going to work and wanted to make it easier on me when the time came for a divorce, which it was. We had nothing to do other than sign the papers.
He can't fix her. She can only fix herself. I was to blame for everything as well. I supported my ex for years and danced on eggshells for him, sacrificed my life and all it got me was misery and a divorce. I'm sorry he's going thru this, he deserves better. So does their kids. ::cries::