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Have a certain position that you use to just get your husband off? I am not always up for sex as often as him so if I am not in the mode we do "strickly business" A position guaranteed to get him off (quickly) so I can get to bed!!!
Re: Does anyone else?
Every position we do will get Fi off.
We don't have sex if one or the other of us isn't interested; we aren't sex toys after all.
Agree. If either of us aren't interested we just let each other know, its not a big deal. Not everyone is going to be randy and ready to go everyday.
Lol, this thread has me giggling. I've got to go with pp and say doggie style.
Plus, I don't think there is anything wrong with pleasuring your man, even if you're not necessarily in the mood. It's like him cooking me dinner to give me a break, even though he doesn't want to. Give a little, get a little.
Besides, I generally wind up really enjoying myself regardless of what my feeling was going into it.
OK my response may be a bit controversial but...here goes. WHY are you having sex if you are not in the mood? I think this will end up perpetuating resentment on your part at some point where you end up looking at sex as not so much something enjoyable and more like a chore.
Also, look at it this way: How would YOU feel if you saw DH posting or talking to a friend trying to find out how to get sex over with faster?
And how quality is it if one of you really is not into it? Quality over quantity I always say!
Just my 2 cents.
(giggling fit)
I would like to hear from just ONE woman on here, married 5+ years who has NEVER had sex for the sole benefit of her man or never wished mid thrust that he'd just get 'er done. (Not that it would matter, because I'd call it MUD anyway) It doesn't mean you stop enjoying it all together. .
Also, I've learned very quickly as a newbie myself, that this forum is no holds barred. The difference between talking to a friend about these personal issues and talking to strangers is that strangers aren't going to circle the info back to your partner! The joy of anonimity!
I get it, but come on. There are gonna be times when one person is in the mood and the other one has a show coming on in 10 minutes! Let's not forget that time can be a legitimate factor, and sometimes you just got to git 'er done. (you decide if the pun is intended). Having a tried and true stand-by does not mean that the whole accumulation of your sex life consists of taking care of "your man". There have been times where I have woken him up just to get him to "help me out", and then he went back to bed. Sex should not be taken too seriously.
Oh right.. and to the OP: I agree with doggie, but GonT seems to work quickly too, but takes more effort!
Don't let some of these woman make you feel bad. That is all some of them do on here.
I understand you completely. Unfortunatly I don't have any idea. My husband will take 30 min to an hour no matter what position we try. What works best for us is after I am off I will dance for him while he jacks. He really enjoys the show and I like being the center of his attention.
To the woman who will call me a slut...GFYS.
Why would anyone call you a slut for dancing for your H?
Woof Woof
This, exactly.
yeah, i call it a BJ.
but seriously, if i realize i'm not going to finish (pretty rare) i just tell him and he chooses whichever position.
doggystyle does it....or reverse cowgirl..
.sometimes we have sex on the sofa but I get on top and ride him for a while...then I take him to the bedroom and get into doggystyle position .....we have a good time...
Thank you!!! It is not like I do not enjoy it once he starts it is just when i am too tired or we are sneaking a quicky somewhere!! I still love my husband and love having sex with him!!! I just cant keep up with him sometimes!!
This exactly!!!!
doggie style..works EVERY time!