And I actually didn't have anything more to say about her until Saturday.
Crazy SIL was OOT for the holidays. She stopped in our city on her way back home and called to see if we would come to the IL's house (where she was staying for the night) so she could give the kids their gifts. We told her we'd come by for a few minutes.
We were there 20 minutes when MIL told us that she'd seen the pastor somewhere and talked to him. She said she'd told him we had a baby and he asked if she'd been baptized yet. She told him no.
(Backstory: this is something MIL has been sure to make a comment on any chance she gets. Years ago, I had told her I was never baptized ((she asked)). When we had our blowup, she recited some *made up* conversation she and I had had in the past about how religion isn't important to me and I just didn't care about it. This conversation never took place. MIL thinks my made up attitude is a result of never being baptized. She also thinks DD isn't baptized because of me and said attitude. Also, I'd like to point out that the last time MIL went to church was...our wedding? Yeah. And before that? Nothing I can remember in the 7ish years I've known her.)
Anyhoo, she used this opportunity to inform us that the pastor told her the best time to do it is Easter and she just kept going on about it. Finally, DH told her to drop it, she didn't know what she was talking about or any of the reasons DD isn't baptized. Shockingly, Crazy SIL stepped in and told her mom to be quiet and that it was our decision. THAT blew my mind. MIL shut right up and left the room, very piissed off.
Just as we were about to leave, MIL told us that there was going to be a huge family reunion the first week of August and that we should plan to go (insert cackle from me here). DH told her (as if she were an idiot) that DD's birthday is the first week(ish) of August and that we were planning a family vacation around that time as well (something she's known for a while). He then told her that we probably wouldn't go anyway, even if we didn't have any plans. MIL got even more piissy.
(Another backstory/sidenote: DH does not know any of his family outside his 2 aunts and uncles that live in this city. The family never had functions when he was growing up, and as a result, never got close enough to those people to even know their names.)
After we left, Crazy SIL called DH and told him MIL had just yelled at her about how she felt attacked by SIL for stepping in about the baptism thing. Yes, this is what happens when someone doesn't agree with her. She feels attacked. How this woman made it to 56 years old, I'll never know.
So that's my update. Things were pretty civil before the weekend. Tense and uncomfortable at times, but civil. Since the blowup in October, we'd seen her probably 5 times, and two of those were because of TG and Xmas.
Re: You asked for a MIL update
I really do it for FIL. I'm starting to not care whether MIL sees the kids, as flameworthy as that may be. But it would kill FIL not to see them.
You should get your baby baptized only if YOU want to. To spite her though I'd have it in a church she doesn't agree with, by a pastor other than the one she's sucking up to.
Damn, she sounds crazy. And like my MIL.
Is her minister crazy, too, or is she possible making up all of these thing that he "said."
Any minister worth his salt won't push people into getting baptized if they don't want to be baptized. Also, a lot of churches won't put baptisms on big Sundays like Easter. They don't want people who only come to church once or twice a year to be scared off by an extra long service. But maybe in some churches it is a more desirable date, I don't know.
I just a friendly gal looking for options.