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(Updated) Sigh... Dust request and slight vent
I just checked FB tonight and saw that my mother posted on facebook that my grandfather (her dad) had a colonoscopy and has a tumor the size of a [silver, I'm assuming] dollar. 1) please send thoughts/prayers/dust for my Papa. 2) no one bothered to inform me about this ahead of time. 3) My mom REALLY thought it was a great idea to announce this to the world before family members were notified??? I'm so upset about the whole thing right now. I had to stop myself from writing her aFB message back saying asking why she thought that was appropriate because it probably won't come across very nice and I'm sure she has to be upset herself right now. Sigh... I just hope Papa is going to be okay. I have no idea what his prognosis is because no one called me.
ETA update: Thank you all for the prayers for my grandpa. It really means a lot.
I talked to my mom this evening and I think I kept the snarky tone out of my voice. She didn't know much yet except what she put in her FB message. The MRI is on Friday to see if it has spread.
Then she called me back a few hours later to say she just talked to my grandmother. So apparently the tumor is definitely cancerous and they're still doing the MRI Friday but have tentatively scheduled the surgery for early next week. It doesn't sound like it'll be an easy one, but I'm praying that the MRI will show it's localized in the one area and will be easy to get out. But Papa put off getting the routine colonoscopy (in spite of the less-than-gentle nagging from former nurse Granny, I'm sure) so who knows what they'll find. I'm trying not to think about it too much. DH offered to go to church with me this weekend without any prompting which he NEVER does and I admit that that was what made me start crying and now I can't stop...
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Re: (Updated) Sigh... Dust request and slight vent
wow. that's a hard way to find something like that out. Your mom was probably really stressed herself, and maybe felt like posting it was "easier" than having to talk about it. I agree with you, not appropriate - but not many people's responses to things like that are what you would imagine...
I'm really sorrry to hear about your Papa. Hopefully you'll get some concrete answers soon and that will help everyone feel more settled.
You and your family will be in my thoughts.
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I'm so sorry. That is pretty inappropriate on her part. Like pp said, maybe she's just struggling with grief and confusion.
I hope he's doing okay. Take care.
*sigh* i'm really sorry. i hope he's ok. prayers!
Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.
In your mom's defense, she probably needs her friends support at this time, and that's her way of reaching out.
I know there is not such a thing as good cancer, but colon cancer is one of the best type of cancers, MIL had a part of her colon removed 2 years ago, she has been cancer free.
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My sentiments exactly. Take care.