Quick Work & Life Vent

Junebug060609

I probably should just start by saying I'm having kind of a crappy day today.  I'm trying to turn it around though and use the frustration and such as a motivator.  I'm hoping this vent will be the kick in the pants to get me to do so.

I woke up this morning with the realization that in less than a week my husband will be getting on ship and I won't see him again till probably next May.  We won't live together again until at least June.  Thankfully we'll still be able to email, but I won't even get to hear his voice until at least April.  Sometimes it just really hits me how much I'll miss him.  This is one of those times.

Got to work this morning to find out that one of my coworkers was given responsibility for something that I used to be the assistant for.  I know its because I'm leaving soon, but it still sucks to feel passed over, to feel like my career is in the shiitter. 

I'm trying to turn the negative into a positive though.  Trying to use the frustrations at work to kick my job hunt into high gear. (If anyone has suggestions for job hunting, I'd love to hear them.)  I plan to use the time apart from DH to do stuff for myself...namely to take better care of myself.  I already have a laundry list of things to keep me busy once he goes (selling house, finding job, some odds & ends we've been meaning to get to but never have the time for...). 

mamie329

I admire you for spinning the negatives into positives. As for job hunting, I'm liking these two sites recently: simplyhired.com and indeed.com.

Good luck! Remember what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. 

odiered

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Good for you though for trying to keep positive. My DH is in the AF, and although he doesn't deploy for long periods he deploys frequently. It's always hard to say goodbye, and to be honest it sucks every day he's gone. However, I always feel stronger once he comes home, because hey guess what, I can do it by myself!

Just some things I worked on last deployment: Keep your goals in sight but work on one thing at a time (if you can.) Don't stress the small stuff! It makes everything worse and harder to be positive when you talk to him if you're stressing! (We were refinancing, training two puppies, I was in school, and I was building my business: which entailed working 10-12 hour days, meeting with township and state people to get clearance and licensing for my daycare (in my home.) You will get through it, and I have a feeling get everything on your to do list done! Good luck!

luckycooky

As far as the job search goes, I would go directly to the websites of companies near where you are going to move.  Sites like monster, careerbuilder, etc. charge businesses a fee to post openings so I know the company I work for only lists there if the position has been open for a month+. 

That really sucks that your H doesn't get some sort of leave.  But the good news is that he still has access to email.  I don't know about you but I think our family would go crazy if we had to wait for snail mail from BIL!  And who knows, maybe they will dock somewhere for a short time and he will be able to call. 

Take a day off from everything and pamper yourself.  There's a lot on your plate right now and sometimes the best thing is just to take a step back, relax, and then go back to it.  Set up a spa day - massage, mani/pedi, etc. go out to drinks with the girls, buy a new outfit.  Your goals will be much easier to accomplish if you aren't burnt out!

Junebug060609

odiered:

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Good for you though for trying to keep positive. My DH is in the AF, and although he doesn't deploy for long periods he deploys frequently. It's always hard to say goodbye, and to be honest it sucks every day he's gone. However, I always feel stronger once he comes home, because hey guess what, I can do it by myself!

Just some things I worked on last deployment: Keep your goals in sight but work on one thing at a time (if you can.) Don't stress the small stuff! It makes everything worse and harder to be positive when you talk to him if you're stressing! (We were refinancing, training two puppies, I was in school, and I was building my business: which entailed working 10-12 hour days, meeting with township and state people to get clearance and licensing for my daycare (in my home.) You will get through it, and I have a feeling get everything on your to do list done! Good luck!

Thanks.  I think I mentioned a few of the  big things, but there is more too.  And I hear you about the confidence of having done it all on my own.  I'm so thankful for the time I lived completely on my own before DH, its really helpful to know I can do it...even if things are more complicated now that a dog and a house are thrown into the mix. 

I'm trying not to sweat the small stuff, but there are moments where it wears on me.  I have a feeling thats pretty normal though.

Good news on the current job front: #1 We're going out for Mexican for lunch to celebrate a co-workers bday.  Ole!  #2 Since I posted the OP I've been asked to do two different projects.  Trouble is that they are both next week and I'm trying to keep flexible next week so I can see DH off.  I will be there to see the boat go, especially since I probably can't be there in Cali to see it arrive.  One of the jobs will probably involve boarding the dog for a day with our vet, but it sounds like a nice day trip out to the Eastern Shore.   

chrissyvcm

Junebug - I'm sorry that you're feeling the way you are. I hate that about being a military wife. It feels like nobody can possibly understand how bad it sucks and how much it hurts to have your hubby gone all the time. I often find myself jealous of those couples who live "normal" lives and who don't have to deal with workups, training, and deployments. Then, when I start to feel overwhelmed with it all, I stop and think about how much of a difference his job makes and how happy it makes him to be able to do what he does. I'm pretty sure God has a special place for military wives!

Junebug060609

I got a little bit of perspective today.  One of my co-workers came in today to let us know she's leaving...on Monday.  She is on maternity leave currently, had her second son about a month ago.  On Monday she's moving to New England for a few months, from there I guess they are going west coast...and her DH will probably be deployed soon after they get there. 

I'm doing better than this morning.  Thanks all.