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Anniversary Etiquette?
We eloped 2 years ago - no one was present at all. We had planned to have a reception just after but long story short we decided along with our families to have a big 1st anniversary reception then my grandfather became very ill just a month before and ended up passing away a week before the party would have been - we canceled everything (My grandparents raised me so this was a hard time for me as well as my entire family).
Our second anniversary is this month. We also just bought our first home in October and gutted the whole place and have been remodeling since day one - other than our parents and siblings no one has seen the house. The remodeling is almost done (at least for now) and we are planning a Housewarming on the 30th - our anniversary is the 28th. Should we mention our anniversary on the invites? And if it's ok - any ideas for wording the invites?
Re: Anniversary Etiquette?
Mentioning your anniversary will make it sound like a gift grab. Is that what you want? If not, then just invite everyone over to see your new house and enjoy some food & company.
This. I think it's a little weird to include other people in your anniversary, especially after you've been married for two years, so I would just make it a housewarming party.
Methinks...Just do a housewarming.
I'd say that if you're going to throw a big party for everyone to celebrate your marriage, it should be a separate event and done right.
I"m in with the others - just do the housewarming and don't mention the anniversary. Who knows? Some people may surprise you and bring a card.
In total 100% honesty - no one is going to give two_shits that it's your second anniversary, and mentioning it on your housewarming invite will make you look like a gift-grubbing AW (c'mon, seriously..........what other reason is there to mention your anniversary?).
If you want to celebrate your new house and invite people to come and see it, do that. But leave the 2 year anniversary of your elopement out of it. Those people who realize that it's your anniversary will say/do something if they feel like it. Don't make people feel obligated to recognize a date that only means something to you and your DH.
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Invite your friends and family to celebrate your many accomplishments of the last couple years. Say something like "We welcome you to celebrate our second anniversary in our newly remodeled home...only a couple of the many milestones we wish to reach together.
any number of anniversaries is an accomplishment these days, something your friends and family should want to share with you and if you want to include them in that they should be more than happy to join you! its not like you're going to pass out a gift registry for wedding presents in the invitation!
I think that the implication is that this would be the reception that they never had, which does make it seem gift grabby.
When I finished college, I didn't walk. I was on a plane for Cancun, instead. I never had a graduation party and didn't really get many graduation gifts. If I were to come back now, four years later, and say, "Hey everybody! I've got this new house that I want to show off and, by the way, I graduated from college four years ago today and never had a party for it, so we'll be celebrating that too," my family would look at me like I was crazy.
It's the same case here. She did what she wanted to do (elope), and missed the big reception as a result. It's already been two years, I think it's time to let it go and move on with life.
Thanks, I agree ... I don't want to sound like I just want gifts (which we really don't want or need ... we mostly just want to show off the house) ... but our parents still get dissappointed we never did anything and my mother in law had told everyone about our 1st anniversary party which never happened but she told them "postponed" so when we see people she told sometimes I feel like they think we just didn't invite them but I am sure that's just all in my head! I guess at this point it's in the past and we need to just let it go!
Thanks!
I like this idea. Alternatively, you could present your DH with a special anniversary gift (watch, etc.) at the party if you'd like.