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All hell breaking loose
Hey ladies, I know I've been MIA lately and I'm sorry for that. I've been dealing with a lot of family stuff and haven't had a lot of free time. I hope you all don't mind if I go a little off the deep end for a minute.
Just after thanksgiving my brothers girlfriend left him & took the kids. My brother has been trying to work out the custody issue without lawyers because she has been saying that she will be reasonable & fair. And it was working, they were swapping weeks and they split up christmas day. Then just yesterday she hit my brother with a TRO with all this stupid trumped up bs that applies to her and the kids & she filed for full custody & child support. She's had the kids since Sunday night and now the absolute earliest he'll get to talk to them is next thurdsay. (Yes, I kow that the court has to take her at her word until he has his day to explain/defend, but I can only imagine what she is telling the kids about why he isn't calling to say goodnight every night). Without getting to into the intimate details let me just say that I think she's just insane & the fact that she strung my brother along really makes me angry. (She's even trying to use me against him, saying that he has access to airline tickets at a moments notice and could steal her kids out of state). I could go on and on about this situation, there is so much going on, but it's not my place to share it all. I'm just frustrated, angry, hurt, and scared.
If that wasn't enough, I found out on Chrstmas Eve that my father has lung cancer. He has started his chemo (today) and his radiation starts next week. My mom tells me that he's been taking it pretty well & he immediatly started Chantix to quit smoking (only had 2 cigs yesterday, and he was a more than pack a day smoker almost my whole life). I'm so scared. It's one thing to think that it's likely to happen because of his lifestyle, it's another think completely to actually have it happen.
I haven't been able to make it down to FL to visit and it's eating me up. I am working right now and this trip was supposed to have a Tampa overnight tonight, but the day got canceled so I'm stuck in NY. I am just so frustrated right now & since I'm not at home with Josh it's even worse, at least if I was with him I'd have that comfort.
If you've made it this far I thank you for letting me vent. I just needed to get this all off my chest.
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Aw Jen, I am sorry to hear all of this. Sending tons of positive vibes your way.
I hope your dad's treatment is quick and effective and that things work out for your brother. Family issues are not fun for anyone
Thanks ladies, I really appreciate all your thoughts and prayers. I also appreciate you reading all that, it felt so good to just get it all out.
Dad is doing well so far, and I've cleared my schedule to be down in FL next thursday for my brothers court appearance.
Hi I NEVER post over here anymore but was popping over to see what is going on. I am so sorry to hear about your brothers struggle and your dad's lung cancer. My Dad was diagnosised with lung cancer almost 6 years ago. It was devastating and so difficult because I felt like I found so few positive outcomes. Although it was a long road with Chemo and Radiation he is doing well today. A few bumps in the road and life goes on hold every 6 months or so when he goes for testing. But he had another great check up today and maintains a good quality of life. While he has lost some lung function he is able to work, golf, fish and play with his grandkids.
Wishing the best for your dad and brother.