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Moms of 2 or more...
How long until dc #1 settled down once you came home with #2?
Andrew did very well the first few days, then went through a spell of jealousy hitting the baby. Now he is back to loving her, but is having a very hard time listening to me. He has been so bratty. I have been very good about keeping his routine the same, but of course things are a little different with a newborn to care for too. I think he has gotten a little spoiled by us and family trying to compensate for the change he is going through. Any advice?
Re: Moms of 2 or more...
6months. I am not kidding. Give him about 6m to totally get used to having a new family member. Anna did well, loved Holden, but was angry at us, esp me. She regressed potty training, and she had been trained for a year and a half when he came home (3 1./2)...it took quite a while before she stopped having accidents. And I think it was nearly 6 m before she couldnt remember a time without him.
Its hard having a baby around, its a huge adjustment. The best thing you can do is make sure you and your DH have one on one time with him alone without sister consistently...but the not listening is his anger acting out..Its frustrating esp when you are prob exhausted. Good luck:)
It was nice to meet you too. You are the first Nestie I've met!
His behavior today was embarrassing. I have been consistant with my discipline, and nothing seems to be working right now. I guess maybe I just have to wait it out.
We are still settling into it at 3 months so I have to believe Nic must be right.
He is great with his brother but really acting out. Hitting, pushing, NO! What ever he can do. If he is over tired or it is after 4 I can't pay any attention to the baby with out him doing something naughty. To be 100% honest, going back to school is looking pretty good right now. I went from a working mom to a SAHM of 2 and that has been really hard.
it took vinny 2 weeks of constant tantrums, then one day he got over himself and was fine with tony. i am NoT LOOKING FORward to when this baby comes home. but i just always included vinny in EVERYTHING i did, changing tonys diapers, getting tony a bubba, playing with tony, tummy time, etc and day by day the fits got less and less from vinny until one day instead of pushing against me to go to tony, he jumped up and grabbed me to bring me to tony. thats when i knew it was the light at the end of the tunnel..... and that was 2 weeks. i was told 6+mos of it to be expected, so i guess the onoy advise i have is to include him in everything that you do for baby..... that worked for me.
good luck!
ps. it also might be the terrible 2s rearing their ugly head.... and him trying to see where his limits are.....
thats happening here with vinny now....
Jakob had only a few days of adjusting at the very beginning and quickly settled into the loving older brother role UNTIL Caroline became mobile. I think up until that point, he thought of her more as another pet (We already have a cat) than a little sister.
Since she's been moving around, it has been a whole different ballgame because she wants to play with all of the same toys he does and THAT is what he does not like. It's weird because he seems to be ok with sharing toys with friends (mostly) when they come over and when he goes places but with Caroline it is so different for him! We've got it mostly worked out by now, (timeouts have been VERY effective) but still everytime a NEW toy is introduced it's a battle all over again.
Typical sibling stuff from what I have seen and heard from others I know!