New, with an inquiry...

ChenoaF

How often do you have sex in a week?

I've been married 2 months yesterday and my hubby and I were dating for 7 yrs before but had never lived together.

 8 months before the wedding he moved and we only saw each other about once every 4-6wks. We never had bedroom issues but now he seems totally uninterested, only lasts a few minutes and only wants it 1 a week. I have no idea what is going on. I thought newely wed time would be all spicy and sexy. Just want to know if this is normal or not?!?!

calle28

Normal is different for every couple. Have you guys talked about it?

DaringMiss

Sounds like you have the same sex life you had before you were married.  Why did you think a ring was going to change it? 

riderpunk

DaringMiss:

Sounds like you have the same sex life you had before you were married.  Why did you think a ring was going to change it? 

Agree.  People post about how isn't newly weds suppose to be having crazy sex all the time.  But honestly in reality that doesn't happen all the time.  If it didn't occur before it wouldn't now.   I knew prewedding we were okay 3-4 times a month since we had stressful jobs, after wedding, same.  Everything is the same so I never expected any variables to change.

ChenoaF

DaringMiss:

Sounds like you have the same sex life you had before you were married.  Why did you think a ring was going to change it? 

I figured being in the same state again would take us back to how our sex life used to be. Instead it seems like the distance put him into a routie of just once a week a so and that's it.

monkeygirl18

Pre wedding (lived together for two years) 5-7 times a week. After wedding (1 1/2 yrs ago) a 5-7 times a week. Nothing changes just because you are newlywed. Your sex life stays as it was in more cases than not.

megd06

we were pretty average when we were first married (3.5 years ago)...2-3x a week or so (sometimes more, sometimes less--depends on how busy we were). Honestly--we actually have had sex MORE since I had our son, which I find odd...usually the sex life dwindles some after having a baby.

tmm140

Before we were married we were like, every night.  Now that we are married, it has died down a lot.  I don't think of this as a problem.  I feel a certain level of comfort has been reached and I am completely fine with when we do have sex.  It goes through spurts...i'm tired, he's tired, we're both tired.  Just try talking to him about it.  I am sure you can work something out.

jonesdouglas

I really have a hard time understanding why people believe that newly-weds have sex ALL THE TIME. Thats just not true...Every couple is different and if you go into your marriage expecting this...Then your setting yourself up for failure.