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Re: 10 things Tuesday
1. Scheduled our inspection this morning for Saturday.
2. I can't wait to get back into that house!
3. My mind is racing with paint colors and furniture arranging and money (mostly all the money that will be disappearing, lol).
4. Got an estimate from the movers - looks like it will be about the same price as the last time we moved. Sweet.
5. Contacted HR to find out how much paid time off I will accrue if I'm able to work through April as planned. I need to start thinking about how much time I can take off to deal with the move and get the house together!!
6. My mind is also spinning with my commuting options after we move... No matter what, it is going to be long and not very fun, but I have three different options that cost 3 different amounts and will probably be 3 different levels of unpleasant...lol. I'm just going to have to try each one once we move and see which one is the best fit.
7. Holy smokes we are buying a house.
8. I still can't believe that this house we went to back in November - just to check it out - and loved but weren't ready to move on yet, is now in the process of becoming ours. Crazy how things work out!
9. Henry's kicks are getting so strong! I was lounging on the couch last night, balancing my grilled cheese sandwich on a plate on my belly (lol), and when he kicked the plate jumped up!
10. I'd rather be at Home Depot/Lowes, looking at paint samples.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
1. Unemployment runs out in 2 months, I'm getting nervous.
2. I need to make a Valentine's menu so I can get some orders.
3. The bride I'm working with is painfully slow at returning emails.
4. AF came this morning. *sigh*
5. The weather has been really nice lately, high 60's to 70's.
6. I'm slowly getting a tan.
7. And definition in my legs.
8. I want to schedule a massage but the spa is booked a week in advance.
9. I want to buy a new Patricia Cornwell book.
10. I also want to buy new shoes.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
1. L still isn't feeling well and is heading to the doc this morning.
2. Her surgery has been harder on all of us than we expected (kids are having a really hard time - which in turns makes it harder on me.) I am just worn out and haven't been a very good wife/mother recently.
3. Gray's pneumonia has resolved. He was cleared by the doc this morning. Only 1 more day of medication. YAY!
4. I can't tell you how ready for spring I am. We need to go to the playground, ride scooters, go for nature walks, etc. The kids need it. I need it. Badly.
5. I am really crabby. REALLY crabby.
6. I am having daydreams about running away to see my friend in FL and going to Disney. ALL BY MYSELF.
7. Thankfully, the kids have been sleeping pretty well the last 2 nights and I have gotten some good nights of sleep. That is a big help.
8. I love Pandora on my phone (work blocked it.) So nice having music in my office again.
9. I am really hungry. What to eat???
10. The kids have a 3 day weekend (MLK Day) - what to do with them!?!??!
1) I've fallen off of the WW bandwagon and need to get back on.
2) I'm not particularly enthused by the lunch i packed today.
3) DW does not react well to the med she's currently on. i hope we survive the next few days with minimal fall out.
4) Sprout cried for the first time at daycare following his visit w/ bio mom yesterday. heartbreaking.
5) i'm loving the travel crib for rosebud. so much cheaper than a "real" cosleeper but functions just the same!
6) i'm concerned that she doesnt get enough stimulation and activity time at daycare. i'll have to mention it to her teachers.
7) At the suggestion of Sprout's therapist, we've begun implementing some of the strategies from "Parenting with Love and Logic" - its going okay, but so much of it is over his head....a 3 year old functioning at the level of a 2 year old doesn't have a whole lot of capacity for logic, ya know?
8) Rosebud gets her 2 month shots thursday. boo.
9) I'd rather be at home. sleeping.
10) i'm excited for the three day weekend coming up!
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
We use this technique (to a degree) with the kids. We really like it and finds that it works well most of the time. We started when the kids were 2.5-2.75 or so. We started with offering the choices and have progressed to the kids making the choice to behave or not and then having the appropriate consequence (time out/loss of privilege/etc.) I like that it gives them ownership and control over their decisions. You can decide to not listen, but if you do, it is the choice you made and hence, XYZ will happen and perhaps next time you'll make a different choice so you don't have to go to time out. It probably isn't that far off from what you are doing now - just using different language/framing it differently.
Good luck with it!
I LOVE Cornwell!
I didn't realize that she had a new book out last year, so thanks for mentioning her. :-) I'm going to buy it now.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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1. Its cold in here.
2. I've already eaten lunch.
3. I might go lift at lunchtime to warm up.
4. I've kind of thrown in the towel on WW b/c I cannot bring myself to commit to counting etc right now.
5. I am freaking cold.
6. We picked a donor.
7. I am really nervous it will take a long time to get C pregnant.
8. I really need a new job. The distance is becoming a major stressor.
9. I am really sad to leave my teams and they don't know yet.
10. I am eating a brownie. Again.
thanks
the biggest problem we have with it is that the logial/natural consequences arent necessarily immediate and with Sprout's current development, anything other than immediate isnt necessarily effective. i.e. if he decides not to brush his teeth, his cavities will get worse and there will be consequences at the dentist...except those two things are way to far apart for him to link them.
Its the therapist's opinion that Parenting w/ L&L doesnt have any place for time outs or other non-natural consequences/rewards...but as i mentioned before, our modified "time outs" had some sucess. So, we're just picking and choosing what works for us
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
1. Every time I try to use a Word document, it freezes my whole computer... very frustrating since the two big things I wanted to get done at work today involve Word documents. I have other things I can do, but they aren't as important.
2. I put in a call for our tech guy, but he is taking his time getting here. I know I'm not his only call... and I know this isn't the biggest problem to solve, but seriously, I need this fixed! Get your ass down here!
3. I'm 34 weeks today and feel so full of baby! I don't know why, but yesterday and now today I just feel 100x more sore and "full" then before (maybe from doing too much this weekend). Hopefully it gets better as I catch up on sleep... but right now I can't even imagine how I will feel in 6 weeks!!
4. On that note, I wonder if I will make it to my due date... apparently I was two weeks early. ::gulp:: Which would be only a month from now. Holy cow.
5. Of course, now that I said that, I'll probably go two weeks late! Lol.
6. Tonight is out second birth class and I'm actually kind of looking forward to it. The first went quickly and was pretty interesting.
7. I'm really annoyed with my coworker who can't seem to ever be on time. She works at the front desk too... so when people come before she gets here, I have to run up there (I'm the closest office) to open the door. Which is annoying and makes it hard to get work done first thing in the morning. Yesterday I missed my train and had to stop on my way from the train station to the office to grab something from the Pharmacy, and I still beat her in. A few of us have talked to her about it multiple times and it always gets better for a week or two, but then she slips again.
8. She's going to have a rude awakening when I go on maternity leave and am not there to pick up her slack anymore!!
9. I'm definitely hungry for lunch, but can't figure out what I want to eat.
10. I'm so looking forward to the three-day weekend I have at the end of this week. I can definitely use the extra sleep and rest.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
Bloggity Blog - You know you want to...
1. I am so overwhelmed. I don't know what to do anymore.
2. We now have 7, yes 7, therapy appointments every week for both girls. See above.
3. I just realized I have only been away from S and the girls twice in 9 months. This probably explains #1.
4. The Secret Life of The American Teenager is so painfully awful that it's good. I can't stop watching the trainwreck.
5. PBS will be a year old soon. It's exciting but a little sad.
6. I wish my mom were here right now. She makes everything okay.
7. Last night while listening to LMC have yet another nightmare I had to fight the urge to call her father and tell him what a POS I think he is. He has to stop telling her she is coming to live with him. She is scared and confused.
8. Will ice cream and/or Chinese food make it all better, at least for today?
9. I worry that no matter what we do, how much love or therapy or stability we provide, it will never be enough and they won't be okay.
10. I am sorry for being such a downer, but I don't know where else to vent.
I have found that parenting is all about what works for you, your kids, and your family. No one method is going to fit your family 100%. Time outs take a lot of practice for everyone, but they tend to be pretty effective. Sometimes if the kids are getting out of control with their behavior we have them go to the stair to "meditate" - deep breathing to calm down. We have to do it with them - but it does help center them a bit and doesn't feel like a punishment. There is a cute book about it Peaceful Piggy Meditations. You guys sound like you are doing an awesome job!
Oh my goodness! That is overwhelming! Don't be sorry for venting - you know we are all here for you! I know with how much your love LMC and PBS you can't help but worry, but they will be okay - they are okay - becuase of the loving home you are giving them. Sending hugs your way.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
well said
just take one day at a time. Also, take advantage of the resources available to you. Maybe get transport for one or two of those appointments a week, or a night or two of respite. taking care of yourself is taking care of the girls.
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
1. I can't even begin to describe how much work I have to do this week.
2. I didn't even sit down at my desk until 12:30 today and it's been constant interuptions since.
3. I'm taking 10 minutes to nest and get some food in my belly.
4. This morning I took the 1-hr glucose test. That stuff really wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.
5. Even though I hear, and see (so cool the way the belly moves all around) the baby each day there is something reassuring about hearing the heartbeat.
6. I'm eatting cucumber and dill salad for lunch - yummy!
7. Did I mention how much work I have to do. I'm not sure where to start today.
8. I think the A/C in my office just came on - wth?
9. This salad isn't going to be enough food for me.
10. Okay, off to check my other boards and then to work.
1. I'm getting another migraine (I think, it feels like it anyway) and I'm scared to take my new medicine because of the nausea that came with it last time. I'm hoping it won't be here in full force before I leave work.
2. Still sore from injection of said medicine (see above) from a week minus a day ago.
3. MIL called yesterday to sing happy birthday! It was really sweet.
4. I decided I am getting my old horse show ribbons made into a quilt.
5. It kind of bugs me when people who are close to me (as in, best friends) refer to DP as my girlfriend. I don't know how to address it without potentially sounding rude.
6. Is it 5:00 yet?
7. I might have to go to TX next month for work.
8. I didn't realize it was a long weekend until you guys started posting about it!
9. Elecctric bill in the mail yesterday was a shocker. Ready for it to be spring!
10. My brain is done. I can't think of a #10.
1. I got to drive a Prius for a work trip today. It was so quiet.
2. I have a bit of a headache and another hour and fifteen minutes of work left.
3. Then a meeting with the research librarian to help get my reading list for the quarter finalized.
4. I'm starting to feel a bit frantic about finishing my research by June.
5. I love the curtains we got done so far and can't wait to finish them for the rest of the house.
6. I have an interview on Friday for a childbirth educator position with a local independent non-profit.
7. I think I'm going to treat myself to a massage. (I found a special at a local place and read some good reviews.)
8. Today is going to be a long day (evening class after work) and I'm not sure what I'm going to have for dinner.
9. One of our friends is going to come visit in February. That's our new "mostly finished" goal for the house.
10. I'm hoping my dad can come back up for a weekend between now and then.