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WWYD? need some advice
Hello ladies, I hope all is well! I have two situations that I'd love some input on...
1st one is...H and I are driving down to NC on Friday to visit with some friends. I've known her for 25 years...they just had their 2nd daughter on 7/4. So we'll be there Friday night, Saturday and Sunday. We'll be leaving Monday am and driving to DC for a 1 day stop. I just got an email from my friend asking if we'd mind driving out 2 hours on Saturday to go to her cousins daughters birthday party. We do not know her cousin. I'm not really sure what to tell her. Our time is very limited to spend with them, we haven't seen them since February and frankly, I'm not sure I want to go to a little kids birthday party of whom I don't even know. WWYD?
2nd...I have 2 jobs. Job #1 is FT. 4:30am-12:30pm. It takes 70 miles round trip daily. This job is what I've been doing my entire life and I enjoy it. Job #2 is approx 1:30pm-5 or 5:30pm. It takes 30 miles round trip daily. This is an office job, very different from what I am used to, but I also enjoy it. I leave home at 3:30am come home to shower by 1 and then off to the other job and get home by 6pm. I'm getting burnt out. Both jobs pay the same. I've realized that I am basically working job 2 to pay to get to job 1. Job 2 has the availabilty in the very near future to be full time. I'm not really sure what to do. I think I'd need to request a raise at job 2 to match what I earn at both jobs, but then again I'm saving 70 miles a day in gas. I want to be realistic with a raise request, but I think it may have to be $4 an hour. I need help figuring this out!
TIA!!!
Re: WWYD? need some advice
1. I'm sure your friend wants to go to this Bday party but feel they can't because you'll be in town, therefore invited you to go along with them. Sooo... why don't you say to them, that'll be the perfect opportunity for you and DH to do something on your own, do some site-seeing, while they go to the birthday party? I know it stinks to be away from them for that long of a time, but they'll decide to either stay home and spend it with you, or go w/out you and you can do your own thing with DH. Just a thought
2. You work at the 2nd job to mostly pay for travel for the 1st job? I can't imagine you would have to work 4 hours a day to pay for 70 miles worth of gas? Isn't that only about 3 gallons, and at $4 a gallon that's only $12 a day for job #1, right? Is there a way you can somehow make more $ from job #1 to compensate the $12-15 a day in gas?
If you're burned out from working 2 jobs (totally understandable, that's nuts, all those hours PLUS all that commute time? WOW!) maybe you should really evaluate which job you can see yourself working exclusively at. Do you like very early morning hours of job #1? Which job do you like better? What about benefits, does one have better bennies than the other? Career decisions are SOO personal, but I hope you are able to figure out what'll work best for you and your own situation. You're lucky to have this dilemma - there are many out there who can't even find ONE job they like, let alone two
Hmmm... I think I'd be honest with her and tell her you don't really want to go to the party. Let her know you're ok with her going and you guys can all meet up later.
I think if job #2 has potential for FT.. then you should stay there, plus its closer to work. If you do become FT at job #2, will you still need to ask for a raise even though you'd be putting in more hours and thus making more money? How sure are you that you will be offered FT? If you're pretty sure, than I would have a plan in my head about how much money to ask for and bring that up whenever you are offered FT. In the meantime... I would make it clear to whomever.. that you are really looking for FT at THIS job and start looking for little ways that you can pick up the slack. Show initiative in doing tasks, and prove that you are a leader and worthy of being FT. I think you also need to ask yourself which job are you happier at? Money isn't everything.. you also need to like what you're doing too!!
I hope that helps!!