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Butter Cookie
I just saw your question in the beebee post below.
My parents demanded (yes, demanded) that they pay for the wedding, and the whole thing turned into much more of a reflection of their tastes than his or mine. Before my mom went full-keel into planning, we'd agreed to have a Catholic ceremony even though H is not Catholic. I think the combination of the religious ceremony and the formal reception got to be a little much for him.
His family is much more low-key than mine, and his idea of the perfect wedding was a backyard keg party where we'd grill various meats, drink good beer, and perhaps have one simple toast (ie, no ceremony at. all, and basically hanging out with people like we do every weekend). I did want a nice wedding, but will admit that my mom went over the top.
Anyway, when I went to get our marriage license, I told him about the hilarious orange and purple archway that they used for civil ceremonies, and joked that we could have saved so much trouble and just gotten married there. He took that idea and ran with it, deciding it would be fun to have a civil ceremony as "our cute little secret." I convinced him not to, but he brought it up the other night and says he wishes we'd done it.
It should be noted that H ended up having a MUCH better time at our wedding than I did, and I threw him a beer and grilling party the day after that he really really loved.
Re: Butter Cookie
Oh I didn't really think you were judging, just figured I'd tell the story.
I considered doing a non-binding traditional tahitian wedding ceremony while we were on our honeymoon, so he could have his "cute little secret" be the fake wedding, but by then we were wedding-ed out and much more content to sit on the beach all day.
I think it's super sweet you wanted to give that to him. Also that you threw him a party the day after.