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WDYT
Man & Woman get married.
Woman has a debilitating bone disease with high risk of passing to children.
Woman has child, child has disease.
Woman has another child, child has disease.
Woman has another child, child has disease.
Is it unethical to keep having children when you know pretty much for sure they'll be in tremendous pain their whole lives, never be able to go out and play with kids because of it, etc?
Re: WDYT
She shouldn't have kids. I'd say adopt, but she'd probably wouldn't qualify. Adopt some pets.
Eh, I don't have baby-making genes in me so my answer will always be "no kids" so I have a bias.
I'd want to know if they're getting the lottery short-straw or not...
like if the chances of passing it on = 10% and they just have bad luck...I'd feel differently than if the odds are 50%.
And I'd have to understand HOW debilitating. I mean, the Mr. and I didn't think rates of mental illness and a 70% (yes really) of our offspring getting migraines was bad enough...but there is a point where it would be bad enough.
Of course it sucks because qualifications to adopt are in favor of healthy people....so it's not like 'just go adopt' is an answer for people who wantt o be parents.
I think they finally had to do a hysterectomy with the 3rd. I'm sure the whole surgical team breathed a sigh of relief. I can see having one, maybe even two, but if you have two children with a significant amount of pain and problems, why have a 3rd??
I wouldn't do it, but if she's lived with this condition her whole life and found it bearable, I could see where she'd come to a different conclusion. I know you said that the children had it worse than she did, but in her mind, saying that it's cruel or unethical to have children knowing they most likely would suffer may be like saying that her life wasn't worth it because of her pain. I could see how that would lead someone to block out reason.
Also, I believe she would qualify to adopt domestically, but adoption's not easy and has many issues that come along with it. In her case, she and her husband would most likely have a much longer wait before finding a match or being picked by a birthfamily.
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