Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
wwyd? (long)
i just discovered that a friend of mine is going through a really, really rough financial time. as in, getting the water shut off, getting the heat shut off, not having enough gas to drive to her low-paying job and back. her kids are now living with dad just so they can get regular showers and have light to do homework.
on top of all this nonsense, a friend of hers was helping her out -- letting her use his place during the day to do laundry, search for a job, etc. after all this kindness, she walks in one night to find him passed out on the floor. she takes him to the hospital -- where he dies. this guy was in perfect health. and just because i know you will ask, he was gay.
my heart is just breaking for her. she is going through so much -- SO MUCH -- and i just want to be there for her. i also want to give her a small monetary gift, but i don't think that's appropriate and i worry how that will make her feel.
wwyd?
Re: wwyd? (long)
ugh. that's awful.
it doesn't sound like she was accepting money from her friend. but maybe you can offer to let her use your washer/dryer. or maybe some gas gift cards?
Can you offer laundry services or internet use? Anonymous gcs for gas or groceries, or go pay a utility bill.
Is there something that put her in this situation or is she a victim of the economy?
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
I think the Visa gift card is a great idea. When I was growing up, we went through a rough period when my youngest sister was born and my dad decided he wasn't going to help pay to raise the children he created. People gave us all sorts of crap we didn't need (clothing, furniture, etc.), when we needed money and food.
If you pay a bill or give her a visa gift card, I can guarantee that will be welcomed and appreciated. Anonimity is also a great idea, so no one is embarassed. Also, maybe invite her over for dinner once a week. Let her know she can do laundry while you two cook. Make it look like a social event, while you know you are helping feed her and offer much needed laundry services. Just a suggestion.
H, someone posted a similar thing yesterday, and this is my opinon.
I don't think that you should let another person's pride keep you from helping them. I don't mean throw it in their or continue to talk about what you did for them.
I would say, "Jenny, you're my friend, and I know that you are going through a hard time, but here is a little something to help."
I think if you come from a place of love, then yoiu can't go wrong.
nola, thank you. i'm just dying for her. i know the kind of person she is, and i am just hating that this is happening right after the holidays.