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Sister Drama Part 2
Alright, so I called up my sister and she said they weren't getting married that day, and we were all relieved. A few days later she gave birth to my nephew.
Fast forward to December, which is when we have my nephew's baptism. BabyDaddy's mom is sitting with my mom, and made some comment to BabyDaddy's mom about how my sister and BabyDaddy already seem like their married.
BabyDaddy's mother says "Oh, that's because they are." My mom dug a little and found out they according to BabyDaddy's mom, they did it the Wednesday before my nephew was born, i.e., the day I called and she told me it wasn't happening.
When my mom said something to Sister about this, she said that they
had a "promise ceremony" and BabyDaddy's mom must have been
confused because she was on medication from a recent surgery. Sister
said she would call BabyDaddy's mom to ask about it. Later, Sister
told my mother that BabyDaddy's mom denies saying anything. The
issue is dropped for the time being, but now we are all suspicious.
A
few months later, Sister and BabyDaddy both get facebook. I guess they
don't understand that when you post something EVERYONE can see it, and
BabyDaddy writes in his status thing "BabyDaddy is married with a 4
month old son and 13 year old daughter."
I see this and immediately call my sister about it. Her response
was "Oh, he just wrote that because it looks better instead of him
having two kids and not being married."
I didn't believe her, but arguing wasn't going to get me anywhere, so I left the subject alone.
Then,
my sister has my mom do her taxes (because apparently she is incapable
of figuring out how to do TurboTax herself). So she gives my mom all
her papers and tells my mom to fill out "single" under marital status.
She was very adamant about the status being "single," so that's how it
was submitted and my parents and I once again felt relieved.
Go forward about a week or two. For part of my job, I maintain various mailing lists. One of
them involved keeping track of all the public school principals in the state. As I was going through the websites for each
county, I noticed that many of the schools had links saying "Click here
to see teachers websites from this school!" When I got to the county
where Sister teachers, I took a break from my job and looked up her
school to see if she had a website.
She did not have a website, but would you like to know how she was listed at her school?
Mrs. BabyDaddy's-Last-Name
I
started flipping out and as soon as I knew my mom would be home from
work, I called her. We had a very long WTFZOMGBBQ conversation, and
later on that evening, my mom called Sister, and got her voicemail. She
told Sister saying that she had found the website, and just wanted her
to be honest and let us know whether or not she was married.
My sister didn't call my mom back for a few days, and I think the only reason she did was because my dad wound up paying a visit to BabyDaddy one day while he was at home and my sister was at work. When she finally did call my mom back, it was like pulling teeth to get her to own up to anything, but she finally did. She also started talking about when she'd get her "real" wedding, and I'm sure you can imagine how the rest of that conversation went.
~end of part 2 - and yes, there is more.~
Re: Sister Drama Part 2
Isn't rule #1 of the secret marriage that you don't change your name after?
Also I hope she didn't get audited. Dumb.
Crap...I Mean Crafts
The big deal was that she did it in secret and lied about it for 6 months because she wanted my parents to pay for a "real" wedding. I'll admit that I also am holding a grudge about the fact that she's never acknowledged/apologized that she straight up lied to me when she said they weren't getting married that evening, when I had been planning on going. She decided that having a pretty princess day was more important than actually having her family there on the day that she actually got married.
and has she never lied before? i mean, is this really that out of character? i watch a lot of television, and all the drug users on the televisions tell the lies. like, all the time.
I'm not upset that the fake wedding isn't happening - but even though I'm not a fan of the marriage, yeah, it still does bug me that she didn't think that we were important enough to have there while they were saying their real vows. And then spent more time lying to our faces about it. It would be different if she'd told us right away, or if they hadn't had his mom and their friends there. You could look at it that she was trying to spare our feelings by not telling us, but if that was her thinking, then she must also think we're complete idiots and that we wouldn't find out that she was married.