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This is kind of messed up
I have a distant friend who has been with her BF for a long time (6 to 8 years, something like that). She is 31 and wants to get married. He wants to get established financially, etc etc. It was her birthday this week.,
There were a ton of FB comments about "OMG he's going to do it!!" and "Does the 3rd surprise come in a little box - OH MY GOD!"
Maybe I felt bad bc I've kind of been in that position before.
Re: This is kind of messed up
Oh yea that is kind of sad- is he friends with her on FB. Can he see all those responses?
:::insert sad trombone here:::
Yes he's her FB friend. If I were him I'd be pissed off that it got put out there like that, when all he was doing was trying to give her a great birthday.
This.
I hate this stupid pressure to get married. I totally gave into it and practically forced MH to propose to me because we had been together for 7 years and everyone else was doing it. I really wish we would have waited until we were both ready.
It sucks because it makes her feel bad about her relationship.
I hate people.
Sure, he will be.
But it won't be to this woman.
If I were her I would have deleted some of the comments or the FB update altogether. There were things like "omg FINALLY!" and "It's ABOUT TIME BF!!" and "Get a manicure STAT!"
ssinca - I don't necessarily agree that if he's not ready now he never will be. H took a long time to want to get marriaged, but looking back I do understand some points. For instance, I was really financially irresponsible for a LONG time, didn't save, charged up a storm everywhere, etc. Once I got my ducks in order he felt more comfortable entering into what is supposed to be this lifetime union. I know that might sound kind of wrong but I get it now. I think it's important for 2 people to be on the same page about most life issues, one of those being finances. If you can't agree on things like that, trouble could sprout. I birdwalked there, sorry.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
Or be kind and let her go now.
it does kind of suck, though, that he created this hype about a big surprise. i can't imagine that he didn't realize that she might have come to the conclusion that he'd propose.
at the same time, yeah, her friends totally sucked for those comments.
for sure.
Why? Maybe he's happy the way things are for now. If she has such a problem with waiting around for him to propose, she should be the one to leave. People told me the same thing before and at a certain point I made up my mind that I wanted to stay with H regardless of whether he married me or not. I was sad about it for a while but I got over it.
NM, I misread the post. DD'd my comment.
Hug me.
<snicker>
But there are other big surprises...he's not allowed to try to surprise her at all because the surprise MIGHT be that he's proposing? That's kinda sad that all opportunities to surprise her in the future are ruined unless he's popping the question.
So...what was the third surprise anyway?
no, of course not. obviously, i don't know a thing about this relationship, but if they've been together that long and maybe she's dropped hints about wanting to be married, it wasn't that out of the realm for her to assume that's what it might be.
A weekend away at a B&B. Maybe he was going to propose at the weekend thing. But maybe not anymore after the FB fiasco.
She just deleted the FB update/comments!
this. exactly.
ITA.
With that, I'm off for a bit! Bye hoors!
It seems like every day something occurs to convince me that Facebook is the demise of our society.
That sucks for your friend D. Even though it's partially her fault both with the posting on FB and the expectation of a proposal, it still sucks. :-(
Totally
Yup!