6-12 C&Ped this from 2nd Tri.
I was a massive pot head for years. I cut down when Dh and I started trying for a baby and stopped completely when I found out I was pregnant. But after the baby's born, and I'm finished breastfeeding, I would be a liar if I said I wasn't going to smoke pot anymore. Probably not at the level I was, I mean, I have a kid to take care of, but I won't quit completely.
=Puts on flame retardant suit= Judge away ladies.
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(I was okay up until this point. Not into it myself, but I can see the comparisons to having a glass of wine after you put the baby to bed. Then I saw this and lost my eyebrows:
I would never do it AROUND my child. While my kid was napping I would probably slip outside for a couple minutes of mommy time.
Re: WDYT of this?
napping and bedtime are two different things entirely.
I think we all know how I feel about pothead mothers.
(Just in case - they're not okay.)
Why is that more eyebrow-raise-worthy than the first part of the post? Because she'd be high when the kid wakes up and is in her care?
IDK, what people do on their time is up to them. I think pot-smoking gets a lot of pearl-cluching "but it's illegal" on TK, which gets a big fat eyeroll from me.
I know a lot of very functional pot smokers, and it's not outside the realm of believablility that someone could take a couple hits and still be perfectly capable of taking care of a baby. To me it's akin to telling someone who had a beer at lunch that they shouldn't be caring for a child.
Y'all know I don't care about the illegality. But every pothead I've ever known - even the ones who are, technically, "functional" - has been a total waste of space. They're flakey, they're dumb, they forget sht constantly, they're self-absorbed and focused on doing exactly what they want, and screw everyone else. Much like any other addict, frankly - and I don't think addicts should be taking care of children.
Did H end up with three heads or on the streets or something? No. Was his mother fit to care for him? Hell, no. And yes, I think a lot of that was the pot, was the addiction.
So for me, the pearl-clutching is not the drug use in and of itself. It's the addict behavior, and I would want to take kids from alcoholics and gamblers and sex addicts, too. You can't care for someone else when your fix is more important. You just can't.
This is fine. I think a lot of people (especially people on the nest) lose sight of the fact that a pot smoker doesn't always = addict, specifically because of the OMG IT'S ILLEGAL mentality. That's what bugs me.