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mamie329

Could you live in a sexless marriage?

hawkilady

Helll no... this might be close-minded but why would anyone want to?

mamie329

If everything else was insanely good, I think I could do it.

luckycooky

Right now - probably not.  Later in life (much later) I would be more open to it. 

angelfire0412

Interesting Q! I don't think I could for 30 or so more years. But if I met a guy in my late 50s or 60s and we were great companions, I would definitely entertain the idea. Sex is really important in a young marriage though, IMO.

sarajoy12345

Yes, I could if I had to.  For example, if one of us got very ill or had serious medical problems, and could no longer have sex, I wouldn't get a divorce.  Our commitment is based on more than sex and I would be devastated if DH left me because we could no longer have sex.

 However, that is an extreme example. In general, I believe that sex is very very important to a relationship and I would never CHOOSE to be sexless or to ignore that part of our relationship. 

hawkilady

I answered this question in about 30 seconds but I wanted to add a couple things...

- if something went wrong where one of us was injured/otherwise incapicitated, it would be hard, but I think we could deal with it.  My cousin's wife was just in a horrible car accident about 2 weeks ago and is still in a coma.  Chances are she will have some sort of brain damage and physical disability is definitely a possiblity.  In a similar situation, I would hope that DH or I could manage to deal with it, whether the future included sex or not.  Of course, I think it would get easier as we both got older but it would be extrememly difficult to be faced with a sexless marriage at 28.

stjoespirit04

sarajoy12345:

Yes, I could if I had to.  For example, if one of us got very ill or had serious medical problems, and could no longer have sex, I wouldn't get a divorce.  Our commitment is based on more than sex and I would be devastated if DH left me because we could no longer have sex.

 However, that is an extreme example. In general, I believe that sex is very very important to a relationship and I would never CHOOSE to be sexless or to ignore that part of our relationship. 

This, exactly.

kaleyandjason

I think I could do it. Not at this point in our lives, but like 40 years down the road.

And as other posters said, if something horrible happened and we weren't ABLE to, I could do it. I love my DH for more than just the sex.

mbd62709

Funny you should ask this mamie...sorry if this is TMI for some of you. At my 20 week ultrasound, they discovered I have a low lying placenta. That just means that it is not where it should be. They tell me it should correct itself on its own as the baby grows. We have another ultrasound scheduled for Feb 12, to determine whether it has moved or not. Anyways, this means no sex until the ultrasound and if it hasn't moved then no sex until after baby DH has been supportive but it is definitely hard to not be intimate. Especially when I finally started to get my sex drive back after the 1st trimester. We are creative but it isn't the same. So we are living this now and praying Feb 12th is the day we can finally do it again! It's hard but doable and for a good cause.

megs1383

i think i could do it if i had to - esp if it was bc of a medical issue or something

mamie329

mb&d6.27.09:

Funny you should ask this mamie...sorry if this is TMI for some of you. At my 20 week ultrasound, they discovered I have a low lying placenta. That just means that it is not where it should be. They tell me it should correct itself on its own as the baby grows. We have another ultrasound scheduled for Feb 12, to determine whether it has moved or not. Anyways, this means no sex until the ultrasound and if it hasn't moved then no sex until after baby DH has been supportive but it is definitely hard to not be intimate. Especially when I finally started to get my sex drive back after the 1st trimester. We are creative but it isn't the same. So we are living this now and praying Feb 12th is the day we can finally do it again! It's hard but doable and for a good cause.

::high placenta dust:: to you!

LarkNow

Short answer: yes.

Long answer: it depends on the circumstances.  It's not something I'd try to bring about, but if it happened I'd make the best of it.  Get creative, up the romance, things like that.

mbd62709

mamie329:

::high placenta dust:: to you!

 Thanks Mamie! 

Leigha12

The answer depends of the reason. If we're talking a marriage of convenience where it's best friends who have no sexual interest in each other, no. If we're talking about our current existing relationships (and not some random hypo) and something were to happen to one of us, yes. 

Savy _05

sarajoy12345:

Yes, I could if I had to.  For example, if one of us got very ill or had serious medical problems, and could no longer have sex, I wouldn't get a divorce.  Our commitment is based on more than sex and I would be devastated if DH left me because we could no longer have sex.

 However, that is an extreme example. In general, I believe that sex is very very important to a relationship and I would never CHOOSE to be sexless or to ignore that part of our relationship. 

 

this exactly for me too!