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IL terminology poll
Some people at work and I have discussed this recently and if anyone should know it's you all
So I want to know what "names" you call these people
1. DH's siblings
2. DH's siblings spouses
3. DH's siblings kids
4. Your siblings spouses
And a bonus question
how do you refer to any special family members to people who don't know them....
Re: IL terminology poll
To me everyone is a SIL or BIL that's why I ask. I do not differentiate.
1. SIL, BIL
2. SIL, BIL
3. neice and nephew
4. n/a yet but I will call them my SIL
bonus
Whackadoo 1 and 2, Best, okay and worst (SILs). I often refer to my SIL who is also married in as my good SIL.
nobody else in our families are shacked up, so I can only address #1.
You mean, beyond their names, but how you introduce them or distinguish them? ?BIL is always BIL, SIL is SIL to others, but to her I sometimes use 'little sister'. ?
I call all of DH's family something in relation to him to distinguish which family I'm talking about. I don't use 'in-law' really. I don't even call my ILs that I call them Dh's mom and dad. I think because 'in-law' often is associated with a negative and I love DH's family.
My DH is an only child (not by choice, OMG, MIL why don't you tell me all about your horrific birth experience again) so most of the list doesn't apply to me.
One of my brothers is married...I go back and forth between brother's wife and SIL.
I call my MIL my 'bonus mom'. In convo, I usally just refer to them by their names.
1. DH's siblings- siblings-in-law
2. DH's siblings spouses- siblings-in-law
3. DH's siblings kids- my husband's niece/nephew
4. Your siblings spouses- n/a
ETA: like MissNot2Long, we also call my husband's dad's new wife "so-and-so's wife". In my case, it's "My father-in-law's wife" or "My husband's dad's wife). They married after we did, and we've only met her maybe five times (the first time was at our wedding, the second time was at theirs) so my husband doesn't feel comfortable calling her step-mom since she has never been a mom to him (and that's not anything personal against her, it's just a fact, due to the situation).
1. DH's siblings: Sister-in-law
2. DH's siblings spouses: Sister-in-law's husband
3. DH's siblings kids: Nieces
4. Your siblings spouses: N/A but would be sister-in-law.
how do you refer to any special family members to people who don't know them.... DH's Dad re-married after DH's Mother's death but nobody refers to her as step-mother. She is "DH's Dad's Wife".
DH's grandpa re-married after DH's Grandma's death, but everybody refers to her as Grandma because most grand-kids are young enough to not have met or do not remember the first grandma (they married over 25 yrs ago)
1. DH's siblings
since we're not married quite yet, FI's brother (no sisters
2. DH's siblings spouses
FI's SIL
3. DH's siblings kids
FI's nephew
4. Your siblings spouses
BIL (i have all sisters)
And a bonus question
how do you refer to any special family members to people who don't know them....
cling-ons
2/40
1. DH's siblings SIL
2. DH's siblings spouses BIL
3. DH's siblings kids N/A
4. Your siblings spouses SIL
And a bonus question
how do you refer to any special family members to people who don't know them.... either by saying they are a close friend of the family, or by the relation if necessary.
So I want to know what "names" you call these people
1. DH's siblings - By their first name or if someone doesn't know who they are then by SIL, BIL
2. DH's siblings spouses - N/A
3. DH's siblings kids - By their first name or if someone doesn't know who they are then by niece, nephew
4. Your siblings spouses- By their first name or if someone doesn't know who they are then by BIL, SIL
And a bonus question
how do you refer to any special family members to people who don't know them....
I don't get what this is referring to?
I "refer" to my sils as wackadoodles. Maybe refer is the wrong word.
Ahhh gotcha.