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Did I ever tell the story...
Of the strange voicemail I got the night of my wedding?
I think I was too wrapped up in moving and Mom drama.
Re: Did I ever tell the story...
Crap...I Mean Crafts
YAY! Story time!
::grabs water bottle and 100 cal. pack of yogurt pretzels::
Backstory first, of course: So about 4 years before the wedding (and a few weeks before I met DH), my bff was living in Vegas and had just gotten engaged. I went out to visit her and meet her fiance. At the time she was living with the fiance and another of their friends from grad school, whom we'll call N. So the four of us went out the night I got there, and after much drinking and merriment, I ended up making out with N. He was cute and fun and I was in Vegas, so why not, right? We continued to drink and make out for most of the weekend, then I went home and didn't think much more about it. I soon learned that the weekend had been a much bigger deal to him than it had to me.
After that, every time I saw bff and her husband, they would tell me how N always asked about me, and if he found out I was with them he'd call so he could talk to me. BFF and her husband alluded to the fact that I was his "one that got away." I think at one point bff's husband gave him my number. After that I'd occasionally get texts if he happened to be in town, but I always ignored them and never saved the number. He friended me on facebook, and occasionally we'd have short conversations if I knew he wasn't in the area. The guy was nice. I actually thought he was better for bff than bff's husband is, but I was never interested in him beyond that weekend.
So the morning after my wedding, DH and I were driving back to my old house for the after party we were having, and I checked FB from my phone. I noticed N's status message was something along the lines of "last night went from bad to awful real fast," but didn't give it much thought. Then I noticed I had a voicemail from a number I didn't recognize.
It was N. And a whole lot of other people. They were clearly at a bar or party of some sort, and it was obvious he hadn't been the one to dial. I heard some guy's voice saying "N! It's her voicemail. Just talk to her! You gotta tell her!" and a whole bunch of people both cheering him on and telling the guy to stop. Then I heard "Is he crying? Oh schit, he's crying." Then I think they forgot the phone was still on because it went on for about 5 minutes, but the rest of it was indiscernible din. DH and I listened to it together.
He knew it was my wedding night, because bff was in my wedding. H and I laughed and laughed about it. He brought it up yesterday, which is what made me think of it.
Sorry that took so long to write. I caught Herbert sh1tting in the kitchen and had to take her out. Where she spent a half hour trying to eat leaves and never finished pooping.
Crap...I Mean Crafts
That's quite the relationship he made up in his head.
I'd be tempted to send him a CD of "Love Hurts" burned over and over on it and a directory of therapists in the greater Vegas area (or wherever he's from).
Yeah, I probably should have been harder on him earlier on. I did see him once (at bff's wedding) and told him then under no uncertain terms that I was in a relationship. But I pulled the crappy "we can be friends" line because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I also didn't want to complicate things for bff and hoped we could be on good enough terms that we could cross paths every few years and not have it be a big deal.
I also didn't realize quite how crazy the whole thing was until I listened to the voicemail. When I say he texted or IMed occasionally I mean maybe 3 times over 4 years. I had no reason to think it was that serious.
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Are you kidding? Led him on by ignoring him for nearly four years? It's not like the guy didn't have access to info about her from bff, who probably told him forever ago that she was engaged to someone else. Everyone else's heart is not her responsibility. If she'd been f***ing him, I might have a different opinion.
now you know another guy who has a creepy photo stained with a million tears. and the photo is of you.
Responding to texts, accepting a friend request and sending messages however in frequent is not ignoring him.
I'm not saying he isn't crazy, he clearly is, and really if another human had that type of contact not a big deal. BUT a guy that thinks you're in a relationship after a drunken weekend of making out? Yeah, that's not someone you have any contact with at all except to say "you're crazy, go live with Hurley in the mental hospital."
Occasionally responding to a fb conversation does not make anyone responsible for their delusions unless she failed to mention she was sexting him. Seems like she feels like she could have shut him down harder and that's really for her to say, but overall, it's just stupid. We seriously aid and abet people not taking responsibility for their own actions. Stupid guy was not "led on." He failed to take a hint for FOUR YEARS or find his spine early enough to make a pitch back when it might have made a difference. How that's supposed to make D to blame for his drunk dialing is beyond me.