s/o trouble and siblings

Mrs.Thistletwat

My older sister and I have always been at odds with each other. Always. We used to fight like tigers and my parents would turn their backs and say, "this is sister business." I used to get pummeled, yelled at, teased, mocked and tortured. But it was "sister business" so my parents never did anything. I'm still pissed that she didn't get in trouble for the huge bruise I got when she threw a box at me.

~~Busy.~~

Sounds like sibling abuse and parental neglect.  You can't tell me that didn't affect your sense of self worth.

PMeg819

My sister and I were evil to each other. One time she grabbed my arms, held them behind my back and then pushed me forward. I didn't have time to catch myself, so when I landed on the tile floor I split my chin open. On the other hand, I knocked her unconcious for a few seconds once when I pushed her and she hit her head on a coffee table.

My mom admitted later that she used to cry at night with how mean we were to each other. We get along much better as adults.

mrs.conn23

That's messed up. My parents let us duke the minor stuff out, but if we started being particularly evil to one another, they stepped in.  We would fight after school, before the parents were home.  That's when we beat the crap out of each other.  But we never seriously hurt one another.  It was all very girlish fighting...Kicking, scratching, pushing. 

Paulo's Menina Bela

I'm an only, but I imagine there's some truth to that. Calling everything "sister business" seems a bit like checking out.

**O-Face**

I distinctly remember being told by mother to go out into the backyard and fight until we bled.  Bro and I did for all of 2.3 seconds until we looked at each other like "mom has gone crazy".  We walked inside and sheepishly went our separate ways.

I did one break a remote control over his head.  Probably when he was 9 or 10.  I was not a nice sister.  

Butter Cookie

I only ever fought with the brother I'm closest in age to. The other ones ignored me.

I only vaguely remember him getting in trouble. But roundhousing a 4 year old is not the best idea, and is a punishable offense. 

TheDuckis

H and his brother were treated similarly. Their grandfather had a rule that if they fought, they both got spanked. So BIL used to hit H, perfectly willing to be hit himself just to watch H get hit again. BIL was a seriously fvcked up kid.

PMeg819

I'll be honest, my parents gave up after awhile with my sister and I. They just learned to keep us apart. If I had to watch my sister and they were gone, my mom would rarely answer her cell phone or pager. She knew it was never anything life threatening, but more along of the lines of "she looked at me and it escalated to a fight".

Heffalump

My mom was the opposite.  We couldn't even bicker without her stepping in, taking over, and silencing our dispute.  I guess she didn't want to deal with it, but it didn't do much to help our conflict resolution skills.

mrs.conn23

My mom would also get very upset at us when we were teenagers and very mean to one another.  She has strained relationships with all of her siblings but one and she didn't want us to experience the same thing. 

We're all closer now as adults.  

Mrs.Thistletwat

~~Busy.~~:

Sounds like sibling abuse and parental neglect.  You can't tell me that didn't affect your sense of self worth.

It absolutely did. And this is a prime example as to why my sis and I don't have a good relationship now. We do ok as long as we don't talk. Texting and email seems to work for us.

My parents claim to feel bad about it now. Especially when everything escalated after my wedding (and I didn't talk to my sister for a year). I'm moving on. Just because they're blood doesn't mean I have to like any of them.

~~Busy.~~

my sister gave me a bloody nose which resulted in my Mom buying her a stereo.  My birth family is all sorts of fucked up.  PLease remember it takes just one person to ruin generations of people.

FYI I now refer to them as my birth family becuase MY family is the one I made w/hubby.

Cant_wait!

I guess that's one good thing about being 10 years younger than any of my siblings, we never fought. (besides for the one time I cut my sisters hair and then she shaved her head...but I was four)

Hell, there's more sibling fights now than there ever was when I was a kid. Poor H. 

**Stinky!**

My brother and I pummeled the tar out of each other on a daily basis. My mom also refused to answer her phone because she knew we'd be screaming into the phone while the other was hitting us. We were awful - I broke his nose, he split my lip, countless bruises and scratches, etc.

On the flip side, she encouraged my little sister to call her each and every time we looked at her funny. To this day, my sister will call my mom each and every time ANYONE looks at her funny, and she's 18. 

arbolita

My sister and I only got into one physical fight when she was being a twatwaffle.  We were on vacation with our parents and she and my mom were arguing about something, and sister thought it would be a good idea to walk the 5 miles back, at night, on the main road.  I ran after her to get her to come back to the car, and she shoved me, and it turned into an all-out brawl in a nearby parking lot.