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::BMom::
Living with H has taught me a lot about not expecting anyone to clean to my standards. I'm pretty good about acknowledging my standards as my own. My standards =/= how everyone should act.
H is in charge of cleaning his bathroom and the kitchen, and I am constantly embarassed and irritated by how clean they are not. However, I have delegated those areas to him, and can't control how he handles them. If I were to try to have him keep them to my standards, I'd have to ride hisass constantly, which would 1) make both of us miserable, and 2) take so much effort, I might as well just do it myself, which negates having him be in charge of that area in the first place.
I imagine if/when I have children, H is going to be largely in charge of discipline. My parents never taught me how to do it properly, so I don't feel like I should have much of a say in the manner. The reaction to misbehavior in the MinM house were abusive, and yeah.....I don't want to carry on that tradition.
Re: ::BMom::
You seem pretty reasonable, so I wasn't that worried. I just know that my mother is still all up in my Kool-Aid about cleaning things, and I have to remind her that when she lives in my house, she can clean it to her heart's content, but until then, she should say a rosary in honor of St. Fu.
Of course, when you're little, you don't get that Mom's fcked in the head, and you just want to go play outside.